Help! My daughter's a girly girl

[tekla]

I realized then that my daughter didn't quite know how to be herself, express herself, without worrying about how she would appear to others. It was as if our lives at that moment collided. I knew exactly where she was — stuck between her girly world, a world where people are looking and judging, a world represented so completely by this mirror by which her frilly dresses hang and in front of which she has spent hours primping and posing, and the real world of her mother, a world that lately is hardly simple, that is full of tears and trials, that makes you work for your triumphs.

http://www.salon.com/life/motherhood/index.html?story=/mwt/feature/2010/03/21/my_daughter_the_girly_girl

[Erica L.]

Oh, to be a mother and struggle with the decisions of motherhood. While I envy her position, I don't envy the conflict that is inside her while dealing with this issue.

Side note- Love the website this story is found on!

[Julie Marie]

OMG!  A person who drapes herself in pink!  What's a mother to do?  Quick!  Call in the local feminist.  Maybe we can buy her a truck.  An olive drab t-shirt, jeans and combat boots might help too.

"Gloria Steinem, why has thou forsaken me?"

[tekla]

God I should try to find the article a week or so ago about how much this has become the deal - that everything for girls is now pink, and everything for boys is something other than pink.  They had a picture of two rooms, one with girl stuff the other with boy stuff and a picture is better than a thousand words.

[cynthialee]

Just sounds like a hyper femme girl child.
(bet her mother flips out when she comes out as lesbian.......)

[tekla]

Dykes on Bikes or Lipstick Lez?  Though the last few Pride Parades they seem to be merging.  Must be the evil effect of the BMWs.

[juliekins]

Why limit it to natal girls?

Julie and I have a friend who's 12 year old son is firmly confident in her decision to grow to be the woman that she already knows she is. Isn't it nice that kids are getting the chance to grow into the people that they know themselves to be?

[tekla]

Not if its just a commercial decision about what one OUGHT to be.

[Silver]

Oh no! Obviously, there's something wrong with women who like being feminine. We must stop them now!

[Jasmine.m]

I think my mom had this same problem with me (the wanting to be a girly girl part)...

[insanitylives]

Just sounds like a hyper femme girl child.
(bet her mother flips out when she comes out as lesbian.......)

I can see that conversation
"But you didn't like me being all girly, what DO YOU WANT FROM ME!"