Ronni
I think you may have actually previously contacted me on another site that I used to be a member of (but am no longer, due to changes in my professional circumstances as a writer). At that time I did not respond because, if indeed it was you, I felt that on that site your profile was too heavily centred around experiences ralated to sexuality and did not have enough other interests like say: reading, hiking, cycling, swimming, gardening, cookery, I don't know - just listing a few tiny fractions of my outside interests to show you how gender and gender related stuff is quite a small component of my interest. At the moment I am tending to use conversations on this site as an interruption when I am writing - as a quick breather.
I think one of the problems you may be encountering is that those of us who are not like the fetishistic types that may have responded to your appeals, are often very reluctant to get in touch with people we meet online precisely because having sorted out our lives we busy getting on with them, and are perhaps a little wary less we inadvertantly get sucked into a world that we remain at best only semi part of. The very last thing I want is, as you put it in your own post, a man in panties. (and no offense to anyone who does actually want or indeed is that. Each to their own, it's just not where I am at.)
I quite understand that when you are in the throes of sorting out your feelings, it does become a major part of your life, and I understand from previous experience (about 30 years ago in my case) what a lonely place that can become.
All I can say is this site is full of people with the same issues, and I hope that you can find someone from amongst them, though sadly it will not be me. But as I recognised the user name - I just wanted to post this so that you could understand that the reasons you are not getting much success may be more complex than you think. And indeed you shouldn't take it personally. Good luck in your search.
