I am an old crossdresser, and I just don't care anymore

[TracyQ]

I should add that I have been living as a woman for over 13 years, but no longer consider myself TG.  At one time, I was considering SRS,  but it never happened and I was happy to be a guy living as a woman.

Now it just really doesn't seem to make much difference.  Is it because at my age (62) the sex drive is almost gone? 

[RebeccaFog]

Hi,

   I'm not a crossdresser, so my thoughts may not fit you but the sex drive is probably only a tiny part of the TG experience. Everybody is different but most of us are more caught up in our identity than we are in our sex drives.

   Just my thoughts.

   People change a lot more than we know over a lifetime. I think once you become comfortable with who you are, you may be where you're supposed to be.

   
Rebis

[gennee]

I'm TG/TS. I began as a crossdresser almost 5 years ago. I'm equally balanced as either masculine or feminine. I prefer the feminine. Each of us is different. I've chosen not to take hormones or have surgery. I'm very happy and content.


Gennee

[barbie]

When I am sick or physically weak, I think about the relationship between sexual drive and desire for life. When I am healthy and energetic, I am ready to enjoy my crossdressing, becoming interested in fashion and beauty. And, I feel that my libido become stronger. But, when I am weak, my libido disappears and I become no longer so much interested in my appearance. What does it matter for a man of age 40 or 50 to look good to strangers in the street? Even some women do not care about their appearance. Vanity is vanity.

To me, crossdressing outdoors is a kind of performance in public. I need to plan, practice, and prepare for that performance. And, of course, evaluation after it. To perform in public, physical health is a must together with strong libido, I mean Freudian libido.

I think my crossdressing is indicative of my health and my desire for better life, libido. It is something extra to my routine daily life. It is flavour and accent in my dedicated life as a dad and husband.

Barbie~~

[noeleena]

Hi.

    Well im 62 ,will be 63 in aug , coming , & iv been able to express my self as a woman for the last 12 years all tho i did all through my life just not as all  out woman . more so over the last allmost 4 ,

As to the sex drive that stoped 13 years ago & i told Jos then ,
  What i came to see was that because i was changing or being pepared  for my inner self as a woman that part stoped .
   No h r t or any out side details , just changes going on . mentally ,
  Being androgynous all so played a part .
  Im not sure if age has a bearing , for me more the timing & i spos age was a part of it , from the point of there was a change that would take place,
    as to when i had no idear, i just knew at the back of my mind   that it would ,

You are right for some its not a big deal . like you said,

  When i knew i was going to live as my self ,,woman,,I still had no idear what was going to happen or take place , i just knew it would , faith i spos , really even when things were going to be hard,

I could not live as a guy,  my brain would not let me .  tho that is a part of me, not psychologically , or emotionally . thats were part of the change is .
  Iv seen things change in me that i can not explain .

  Ill tell you what tho im so much more happyer now after the changes so really for me its so neat,

   ...noeleena...

[jannelle simone]

I basically agree with all the views expressed on this topic so far. Just turned 63 [gasp!!] myself this past week. I think that as the libido slows with age, we are no longer blinded by its intensity, and can begin to listening to and understanding the rest of the 'life messages' [for wont of a better term], our bodies are trying to tell us. Just this girl's VVHO. YMMV.
     Hugs,
jannelle