Very confusing

[MRH]

Ok so I am about 97% sure that I want to transistion into a male but there is one major issue thats holding me back

Now I am in no way homophobic. I have a few gay and lesbian mates who are awesome but the idea of two men having sex really turns me off and I find no attraction in it. The problem is I am attracted to males so if I was to transistion I would be gay but ,like I said, I have no attraction to two men having sex. Theres just something very beautiful in a man and woman being together. I have tried to look at gay images to help me get used to the idea but it just doesnt work for me. Whenever I imagine the future I always picture myself as a man but when it comes to thinking of sex I still picture myself as a woman.

So basically I am a gay man who isnt attracted to gay sex lol and so its really really confusing for me.

[confused]

lol that's a pickle . i have been confused about my sexuality too , i mean i'm into girls but i think i'm kinda attracted to guys but i don't like their body X_X , that doesn't make any sense , so what i'm doing is wait to see the hrt results , maybe my whole sexual orientation would change (?) . it all depends on your decision weather you decide to go through transition or not , or how bad you are dysphoric , me if i could live with it for more i would , so it's all up to you
good luck 

[Janet_Girl]

Don't worry about your sexuality right now.  You may find you are Bi or even straight.  But for now it is about you and you alone.

[Terra Anne]

Just because your attracted to men doesn't mean you need to have sex with them 
I am attracted to both males and females but I'm not sure how I would feel about sex with a guy, but then again I'm not really into sex in general.    thumbs up for romance!

[Torn1990]

I can personally relate. It was my first attempt at a relationship. It was only a few months ago.
  I remember being in his bathroom in the morning getting ready, and he comes up behind me and puts his arms around me..
I felt really happy..
until i looked in the mirror. I think my heart skipped a few beats, and every good feeling in my body completely disappeared.

MRH i think that it will come natural to you. I know the image really impacts our feelings, but try and focus on the feelings this supposed guy will have for you and you have for him. At least allow the sex, which definitely clouds a lot of other senses while it strengthens the ones that matter, to not be impacted by this. 
And I assume you post this because you want to have sex eventually, I personally see myself as an asexual. When guys open a door for me, that's like my darn sex. But I would have sex to reciprocate feelings. Try and see it more in that way if you transition, it's not about how we look, it's how we feel! hahaha.. but it must be difficult to feel much if you are 100% turned off. Some times things are just how they are, maybe when you are having sex your woman can emerge. Maybe not physically but sprititually if that helps!

[Nicky]

Well, try not to think of you together. I think a lot of couples would be turned off watching themselves have sex.

I think that when you have someone, focus on them, and your attraction to them and how they make you feel, perhaps none of that would matter.

It might be you just really want to be in a more 'fem' role in the bedroom which is ok. You can play the girl in bed if that it what you desire but otherwise be the man. I've known women who were like 'men' in bed. They really played on that role, but it everyday life we definitly women. 

It is not uncommon. I think things will become clearer with experience so try not to worry too much about it (I know, easier said than done), It is also not uncommon for gay guys to have sex like women. Porn does not reflect the reality here. The same goes for lesbians. Prom made for lesbians is so different to lesbian porn made for straight men.

take care
xx

[Jam]

Thats a tough one....well remember most of the time when we think we won't like something it turns out ok. With me when i have sex, im focusing on the other person and its very loving. There's lot's of cuddles etc i don't really pay much attention to myself and my gender. Infact a few times i have caught myself thinking im a bioguy lol. Try not to make yourself a big worrying mess over it, it's probably no where near what you think it's going to be like.

[tekla]

I think a lot of couples would be turned off watching themselves have sex.

And I'm sure they know who they are.  The other half have already filmed themselves and posted it to Amateurs.com.

[shanetastic]

Don't worry about your sexuality right now.  You may find you are Bi or even straight.  But for now it is about you and you alone.

This is the wise little truth! haha

[tekla]

Actually, being alone is for most people the most critical step on the road to success.  Dragging other people with you just slows you down.

[MRH]

Thanks to everyone who replied.

I know for a fact I will never be Bi or straight. I have no attractions to females. I thought about it a bit when I was 13 but it really wasnt for me so I doubt my feelings there will change.  I do have a boyfriend at the moment who doesnt want to have sex with me if I become male which is perfectly fine with me. I wouldn't expect him to. He will still love me all the same but doesnt like the idea of having sex with a man because he isnt gay. Now over time things could change and he may warm up to that idea but for now Im picturing my life with no sex which is fine but I guess im just scared that if worst comes to worst and we split up if I will be able to bring myself to have sex with someone else. I know its probably not worth worrying over but I need to take every minor detail into account so I can be 100% sure transistioning is right for me.

[kyril]

MRH,

Lots of cis gay guys go through something like this - it's an unavoidable byproduct of internalizing our culture's homophobia. Even if you're not consciously a homophobe, even if you have gay friends and respect their rights and treat gay people with respect, gay sex can be a different story. It's impossible to get away from the cultural message that sex between men is wrong, gross, ugly, or dirty. And part of the coming out process is dealing with those feelings.

Being in a relationship with someone who's also squicked by the idea of gay sex isn't going to help. Hell, it's hard for me (in a similar relationship), and I've identified as a gay male since I was a preteen. I'm not sure what advice to give, but one thing that's helped me is to have some contact with people who are attracted to me as male. Having my maleness seen positively by another man in a sexual context sort of broke down my resistance.

[Robyn]

I know for a fact I will never be Bi or straight. ... I need to take every minor detail into account so I can be 100% sure transistioning is right for me.

Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans.

Enjoy the journey.

Robyn