Can anyone help me figure this out

[iris1469]

See i have no problem atracting successful men, and i mean engineers, execcutives blah blah blah. and everything starts fine. They might take me out to dinner and drinks. because i am soioooo nervous, i do drink a couple appletini's or have several glasses of wine. they totally wine mre and dine me and i  usually let them take me home and well i do love sex. the problem is that i nevrr hear back from them. any tips

[lilacwoman]

make em wait?
break the frst dates but be very apologetic with a genuine sounding excuse and if they really are interested in you as a person they will try a second date.

[SnailPace]

Maybe you can meet men through a more casual setting like a class you attend or some other fun extracurricular.  Guys that meet women through dating websites are usually more likely to be in it for the sex.

[Cruelladeville]

Sadly a lot of chaps like women for just sex.... ggs/cis/tg or otherwise...

And if you meet them in bars/clubs and on alt./sex easy-come-go style dating sites...

Whadayahexpect?

Meeting guys for long-term relationships is a whole other ball-game....lol

And can come through work colleagues, mutual friends, social networks.... hobbies gyms and shared interests...

[Robert Scott]

My suggestion ... from all the talk I have had with my guy friends & in the locker room so to speak....


Don't drink and don't have sex in the first night.

Every guy wants to be able to take home the "good" girl to their parents.  They want the wholesome good imagine gal.  If they think you drink and put out too easy that you will be known as a slut and that would not be what Mom would like to hear.

[annette]

Hi Kitty

maybe you don't hear from them again coz their spouse don't like it they have an romantic affair with another girl. Now they can say,(if discovered) I was drunk, she was drunk, it just happend, it means nothing to me, just sex.
With an affair you can't say that.
and men are hunters you know, so let them hunt for a while, enjoy the  game of being hunt.
Now you gave them everything they want, so, game over.

I'll hope you'll find a nice man who will respect you, but you need to respect yourselve first.

maybe you can do something with this advice, coz you're worth more than a night with wine and sex
I do mean this very positive and supportive to you

love
annette

[iris1469]

Sounds good!  however i have just accepted the fact that all i am is a fantasy. a nut thats it. there isnt a man alive that would take me home to meet mama. hell ive been hidden in closets, a bathtub. heck ive even had to  hide in the trunk of a car for several hours. so why lie to myself and try to fly off a ten story bldg when i know i dont have wings. no i must force myself to keep it real. i vow to you all to NEVER lie to myself again. from this point on its about money. period. no ticket no laundry. thank you for helping me realizing the right way!

[Epigania]

Sounds good!  however i have just accepted the fact that all i am is a fantasy. a nut thats it. there isnt a man alive that would take me home to meet mama. hell ive been hidden in closets, a bathtub. heck ive even had to  hide in the trunk of a car for several hours. so why lie to myself and try to fly off a ten story bldg when i know i dont have wings. no i must force myself to keep it real. i vow to you all to NEVER lie to myself again. from this point on its about money. period. no ticket no laundry. thank you for helping me realizing the right way!

You seem to have a possible self image/esteem issue.   You are more than an object and you should try to accept that about yourself.  You're wanting something meaningful and long term in your relationships, but you seem to be advertising yourself as something else.

Identify what it is you want in life and relationships and don't settle for something less.   Take control and be happy!

[tekla]

Every guy wants to be able to take home the "good" girl to their parents.

That's the first wife, the one who puts you through grad school, has your kids, gets to keep your house after the break-up, and has better relations with your parents after the divorce than you do.  And that's basically what dating the nice girl got you.  Hosed.  The second wife, that's an entirely different game.  There is a reason get get called 'trophy' instead of 'nice.'

[annette]

Hi Kitty
I'm agree with epigania.

think about yourselve, you're a person who need love and attention.
you look a nice lady to me and you don't deserve to hide in bathtubs or trunks or whatever, you're worth more than that.
you are somebody with feelings, opinions, thoughts in other words a living thinking person and not an object for someone to have a few good hours with.

be aware of yourselve that you are worthfull, not as a fantasy or nuts or something.
and there is always someone who will likes you, just be patient.
think about it kitty, you didn't do all the troubles of transitioning only for abusing yourselve by others, true?

take care of youeselve hon

love annette

[Elsa]

I would say if someone tries to lock/hide you in a trunk of car ... its a sigh you need to start calling for help... perhaps the cops?

firstly I think you deserve better than that ... no girl should ever have to put up with something like that ... and if I was in your place ... I beat the ->-bleeped-<- out of them preferably with a shoe for trying a stunt like that ...

lets face it guys like to have sex... once that is done most guys loose interest... and it gets worse if there are drinks involved ...

the key to finding the right person ... is to find the right person who you really care about and keep that person interested after his drinks wear off .. but this goes both ways coz if your drinks wear off and you realize that the person you've just been with is a total a*****e then you are back to square one...

and who says there isn't a man who would take you to see his mama. ... I sure there is one out there somewhere and as for the rest you can just call them a mama's boy and walk away ..

as for being a trophy wife ... if that is what you are looking for then be aware that the entire relationship would be based on money and looks... and unless one of the partners either dies or  gets divorced when the other was caught cheating ... they almost never work out... imagine waking up next to a total a*****e every morning for the rest of your life....

take care!!!

::hugs::

[Rosa]

Kitty, who have you hid from - the other woman?  Its not clear what you mean.

My two cents is that guys who have sex on the first date, especially if they have just met you, are probably just in it for the sex and not looking for a relationship. If you just want some sex, then that might be fine for you, but if you are looking for a relationship, probably better to make them wait a little. 

[tekla]

they almost never work out

Neither did the 'nice' girl.  So why settle for nice when you can have what you really want?