taking it slow?!?!

[BardicFire]

apparently my girlfriend feels the need to continue to tell me to "take it slow", "have fun with it" (it being transition), "not take myself too seriously", etc, upon etc.

How do I explain to her that it's not like that. I'm sure many of you know what I mean. I understand her concern but the way and the frequency of the things she says are irksome. it is a VERY serious thing. it's not exactly something to take slow in the typical sense. I start dressing regularly. I get counseling. I get hormone therapy when I've got the monetary means. I do surgery when I have monetary means and feel capable of doing it. not something that really can be rushed or taken slowly. I've explained all this to her, and yet she still insists. how do I explain this feeling to her? any advice?

[Karla]

BardicFire,

I may not have been for long enough in this world, but I feel the experience of being TS trans-cended everything that I have ever had the slightest concept of: emotion, wants, desires, reason.. it was the 4th dimension to my 3D world, and oh my did it shake.

I tend to think it must require some effort as an observer to appreciate how fundamental and core reaching it is.

You must be familiar with that specific point where your dysphoria is set off - don't explain, take her with you, if I'm not just saying total nonsense.

[BardicFire]

thank you for the advice, and although we worked it out and this thread is now moot, I'd still appreciate conversation about this topic.

[Just Kate]

Seems like she'd like you to lighten up about it.  Something we could all use a bit of doing.  I think we get so wrapped up in ending the pain, we forget to smile, to appreciate those people in our lives, and to find the little joys in life again.  When we hyper focus, we drive away others.  Their interests are not our interests, and while they can intellectually appreciate our struggle - in the end it is not their struggle and after constant bombardment with it, they might choose to be around someone who likes to talk about / focus on something else - like going to the park, talking about a movie, laughing at oneself, etc.