Confused...

[Shiro M.]

Hey, I'm kinda young and I hate being in this body. The testosterone levels disgust me, every time I get in the shower I feel wierd, it feels like the wrongest thing in the world to me. Is there anyway that I can feel better or try to transition yet? I don't want to be a bother, I'm just really lost is all.

[Kristyn]

Hey, I'm kinda young and I hate being in this body. The testosterone levels disgust me, every time I get in the shower I feel wierd, it feels like the wrongest thing in the world to me. Is there anyway that I can feel better or try to transition yet? I don't want to be a bother, I'm just really lost is all.

The first thing you should do is perhaps seek out a counselor to discuss these issues with

[Jester]

I don't know how young you are, but I'm thinking high school.  In high school I made a lot of internet friends, shaved my legs, and grew my hair out.  I kept it a secret, but those three things helped me out a lot.  I don't know if you're going to find this helpful or not.

[cynthialee]

Do you have an adult in your family that you can talk to and trust? Doesn't have to be a parent. A cousin, or an Aunt or an older sibling?
If you would like to transition young you will have to come out to the family.
If you wait until you are 18 or over you still will end up telling them but they will not be able to stop the process.
It has been mentioned already, you should try and find a therapist, preferably a gender therapist.
Good Luck and best of wishes.
Cynthia Lee

[Shiro M.]

I don't know how to come out to my family. It would be a huge shocker for everyone, I've tried very hard to make sure no one knew. They are without a doubt that I'm a boy...

[cynthialee]

I don't know how to come out to my family. It would be a huge shocker for everyone, I've tried very hard to make sure no one knew. They are without a doubt that I'm a boy...

I thought that I had done an awesome job of portraying a man over the years.
When I came out a few of my friends and family were like...I expected this, I am not surprised, and the bigest shocker of all one of my best friends said after I told him I was trans, 'I knew this for years and have been wondering if you would figure it out'. Do not be surprised if your attempts to portray a male have been less than optimal preformance.

[Scribbled101]

I'm with cynthialee on that last point, even though people might act one way, generally the only reaction that would say otherwise is out of fear or misunderstanding.
Also make sure that when you do choose to come out, that you have things planned and are currently / have talked to a therapist about it (or at least make sure you that you know how to handle the situation). The best advice is to try and stay as calm as possible, keep rational, and provide the family with some education on the subject rather than "By the way, I'm TG and this is how I really feel," and expect them to know exactly what all that entails.
(Having a close friend or someone you can trust helps as well).

Hope things go well for you :3

[Shiro M.]

*sighs* Well, I'm definately going to tell my dad (divorced parents)..... Do you guys have any ideas as to how?

[rejennyrated]

Shiro

I came out to my parents when I was a very little girl (just 5). In some ways it's easier at that age cos you just blurt it out and everyone laughs... and then later on when you are in a shoe shop and you all but force your mother to buy you a pair of girls shoes... and then demand a party dress etc etc they gradually realise that you weren't joking.

Assuming you are in your teens I would say that sitting down with you parent(s) and starting to talk honestly about your feelings is the way to go. But personally, unless you don't have a good relationship with your mother I would talk to her first. Mothers are generally more understanding than fathers in my limited experience.

What ever you do good luck - and just remember the earlier in life you can start finding treatment and get help the better you will do.

[maybeoneday]

I know what it's like. I'm seventeen and wish I could have a SC. I hate looking down. I also feel trapped in a body that I wasn't suppose to be giving.. My family knows that I'm gay, but they don't accept it. And If I were to tell them I'm wanting to transgender, they'll all flip out. Only a few of my friends know that this is what I want. Good news, I'm accepted by my friends. Bad news, I'm not by my family, and I wont have a family after the surgery.

cynthialee, You said you're a transgender, right? If so, Please PM me. I tried to PM you, but apparently, I can't. :\

[cynthialee]

You can not use the PM function until you have a certain number of posts. Anything you wanna ask your going to have to ask publicly.
I am transsexual. Which I guess puts me under the transgender umbrella.

[lilacwoman]

*sighs* Well, I'm definately going to tell my dad (divorced parents)..... Do you guys have any ideas as to how?

well if you're really confused and upset you ned to say you need to go to a doctor or shrink...

[maybeoneday]

Oh, Well, Okay then. Lol. I'm new to this sight. ;}
What I'd really like to know is, Where do I go? Country, State, City.
Where can I find a great therapist?
And, How much does everything add up to? Cost.
I'm a male, and hate who I am.

[Shiro M.]

I think I should state just how "guyish" I am. I typically dress in baggy jeans and yes, I sag. I wear tshirts and hoodies all the time and I wear flatbill hat alot. And I act like a typical teenage boy. I can't stand it! I want to be me! How do I tell my dad! I just want to be me...