Crap just got a whole load more complicated

[Jeatyn]

You may or may not have read in my other thread but.... I'm pregnant

This has made it impossible to bind, so already, it's inhibiting my passing ability massively....once the bump comes in it'll be completely impossible.

All my records are already in male form, with the names and gender switched over.

What the hell do I do now? I was already pushing it and getting funny looks when I went to sort something at my bank or sign on for my dole or anything like that.

Everything is "Mr" and I can't pass anymore....should I switch everything back over temporarily or what? Start ticking female on forms again?

I rely on paperwork for ID because I don't have any photo ID, even if I did I can see them just thinking it's my brother or something because "Mr Strife" with a blatently pregnant woman stood in front of you just doesn't make sense to 99.9% of the population

[sneakersjay]

I wouldn't change it back.  Just be yourself and ignore ignoramuses.  Easier said than done.  FWIW there are medical conditions that can cause abdominal swelling, ie tumors and such, endocrine problems, etc.  Depends on how far 'out' you want to be as a pregnant man.  I suppose the sarcastic part of me would say, what's your problem?  Like you haven't seen a pregnant man before?!

You don't owe strangers any explanation, and anyone who has any sense of common decency won't ask or say anything unless you bring it up.

Best of luck.  I have 2 kids and they are awesome.  I know you said on the other thread that you wanted a child, so this will be but a mere 9 awkward months out of your life and then you can be a cool dad!


Jay

[Silver]

That sounds like a hassle, kudos for not just aborting it.

There isn't really much else you can do besides just deal with it. I wish you luck.

[sneakersjay]

Oh, I misunderstood that you were no longer passing.  Oops.

I still don't think I'd go through the trouble to change things back, though. 


Jay

[Adio]

I would not change everything (name, gender marker) back.  It's possible that you wouldn't be able to change it again (legally back to male).  If that's what you want, though, then it's something to consider.

Not passing sucks.  But that can happen, pregnant or not pregnant.  Right now, what's most important is your baby.  Sometimes trans-related stuff has to get put on hold. 

Do you feel comfortable correcting people?  If you don't or haven't before, now might be time to learn.  People might still misgender you, but all you can do it correct them.  It's out of your hands after that.

I also suggest getting a photo ID of some sort.  Just in case.

[GothTranzboi]

I aslo agree that you should just wait. After all the stuff someone has to go through to be recognized legally on paperwork, even if you could swtich back and forth, is alot of a hassle. It is also no ones bussiness but your own. If you trully feel uncomfortable with your chest try some baggier clothing, if anything it will be more comfortable all around.

[M.Grimm]

I agree that if it's at all possible for you to get some photo ID, get it ASAP. However, I wouldn't change your gender markers back. You're not going to be the first pregnant man, people can just deal with it and/or mind their own business.

You may also be able to wear a minimizer bra during this time, to help keep the chest under control. It's not as good as binding, but it's better than nothing.

Good luck to you, I really admire your courage in this.

[Jeatyn]

Even in baggy hoodies the chesticles are ridiculously obvious, I've gone up to an E cup and they are solid to boot >.> According to my sister this stage doesn't last that long and they will calm down so I'm keeping my fingers crossed that I'll be able to bind again soon.

I could probably just get away with the bump looking like a beer gut if I could minimise the moobs

Photo ID = expensive a drivers license is a whole weeks worth of cash for me.

[Adio]

Photo ID = expensive a drivers license is a whole weeks worth of cash for me.

Sorry if you already know this, but I thought I'd throw it out there just in case.
If you've ever had one and it was lost/stolen, it's £20.00 not the whole 50.
If you don't want to get a driver's license, there's the identity card.  You'd have to meet certain criteria, but it costs £30 (it'll have your name and gender on it as well as a photo). 

This is all assuming you live in England.  I got that info from the directgov website.

I really hope things work out for you and your baby.

[zombiesarepeaceful]

Yeah, if you change it all back, you might not be able to change it to male again. Remember the pregnant man that was in the news before? You can do it. Hell, maybe you could actually find his email info and talk to him, personally. You can make it through this.

Now personally, I would get an abortion cause I'm not anti-abortion. But if you are, that's your call. Either way, we support you.

[Jeatyn]

nah never had a drivers licence. I looked into the ID card thing...I don't remember why but I wasn't eligible, think it was my location.

I'm not anti-abortion, I'd much rather somebody would abort than bring a child into the world they aren't going to take care of, I just feel like I can't waste this chance. I was a week away from starting T and I've always thought I was infertile from a years old diagnosis....so it's like...a sign that I'm destined to have offspring

[M.Grimm]

A friend of mine, told she was infertile, ended up having protected sex with a man. Somehow the protection failed and her infertility also failed and she ended up pregnant. It was like a miraculous event. She was going to give the child up for adoption but ended up keeping the baby and she's so happy that she did so. It really changed her life for the better, even though it's been very challenging for her.

So maybe this was just meant to be, for you, too.

[Jeatyn]

aye I think it was, I remember making a thread ages ago wondering if I should get fertility treatment and try for a baby before I went on T. I decided against it in the end but the universe apparently had other plans

Do wish the universe had informed me of these plans before I went ahead and spent a crapload of money at a private clinic to get my diagnosis though....although I do find amusement in the fact I would have been a few days pregnant as I was sitting in Dr. Curtis' office