which gender are u attracted to?

[M.Grimm]

Males, primarily. On occasion there is a female who will turn my head, but this is rare. I find that when I look at women, most of the time I'm thinking "Well she's pretty, oh no honey why would you wear that shirt" and I re-dress them in more flattering outfits in my mind.

[LordKAT]

Males, primarily. On occasion there is a female who will turn my head, but this is rare. I find that when I look at women, most of the time I'm thinking "Well she's pretty, oh no honey why would you wear that shirt" and I re-dress them in more flattering outfits in my mind.

I never understood this. My sisters do it all the time. Who cares what people wear and why is your opinion better than any one else' s.

This has nothing to do with you personally Grimm, I just don't get the whole need to change others clothes, hair, walk or anything else for the most part.

[M.Grimm]

For me, I think it's just because I'm a costumer (as in, designing clothing for others). I only seem to react this way when someone is clearly trying to dress nicely but the items are ill-fitting. An example: improperly fitting bra and pants with a clingy shirt. I'm pretty certain the result is not what they were trying to achieve.

I want to look fabulous, and I want others to look and feel fabulous, too.

[Adio]

I'm pan (yes, I am attracted to someone regardless of where they are/aren't on the spectrum).  I have a preference toward masculine personalities.

[Ryan]

Heterosexual male here. Cis-gendered women only for me.
Although, saying that, I've never had any experiences with trans or gender variant people. I don't like to say I don't like something until I've tried it.

[madzam]

I'm a heterosexual male..I really like butch and tomboyish girls!

[Greg]

I'm attracted to femininity, so cis or trans women. I'm more attracted to personalities but I would be lying if I said that looks didn't matter. Physical attraction is important, I like either women who are a few inches shorter than me or a few inches taller. I also like women with red hair. Karen Gillan (the new Doctor Who assistant) would be a good example. A six-foot-something red head, yes please.

[Ryan]

Mate, Amy Pond is mine!

[Between Names]

You guys can fight over her, as long as The Doctor is mine.

[Greg]

Mate, Amy Pond is mine!

Sorry, I already bagsied her 

[Radar]

I have always been attracted to females.  During the years I attempted to 'conform' to the sexuality that I thought everyone wished for me to (trying to force myself to be attracted to men, date men, etc.), but it failed miserably.  Thinking of physical sexual contact with men makes me nauseous.  I don't mind what others enjoy, but I do not enjoy sexual contact with males.  Women turn me on sexually.  I am romantically attracted to women in the emotional sense, as well.  I have always thought that certain men were handsome, but always found that I wanted to BE them, rather than be WITH them, if that makes sense.

This makes complete sense to me considering this is me as well to the detail. I have a weakness for blonde and mulatto women.

[Evan]

I've always been only attracted to women, preferably thick brunettes (Dr Who? psh.. Sara Ramirez from Greys Anatomy ).. but ever since I've been on T the feelings that I thought were just "I wish I looked like that" I'm realizing are really more "Damn I'd totally do him". Its unnerving to say the least, but you're making yourself feel trapped and confused. Just go with the flow. Of all the people in the world we should be the most capable to allow gender to be virtually meaningless in our attractions, and of our sense of self.

[LordKAT]

Question for Evan.

Why do you think

we should be the most capable to allow gender to be virtually meaningless in our attractions

?

Who we are and what we like are totally unrelated.

[kyril]

Of all the people in the world we should be the most capable to allow gender to be virtually meaningless in our attractions, and of our sense of self.

I'd actually argue the opposite - that of all people, we may consider gender the most important in our sense of self, and possibly also in our attractions. If we thought gender was meaningless, why would we bother transitioning?

I don't think anything sex/gender-related gets to me quite so much as being told that I ought to be bi/pan because I'm trans. Maybe it's just the baggage of years of trying to convince myself I was bi, so that I could at least pretend to fit into the heteronormative treatment model. Or maybe it's that I resent any assertion that I ought to be/feel/behave differently from cis men because I'm trans. But either way, it bothers the hell out of me.

I'm a guy, I'm gay, I like boy parts and male bodies and male voices and male smell, and I'm not going to pretend to like girl parts/bodies/voices/smell to be politically-correct any more than I would demand that a guy I'm interested in do the same. I reserve the right to make a decision on physically-transitioned FTM parts at such time as I'm given the opportunity to make an informed one.

[Cairus]

If someone has the attitude and the creativity and all of those flowery amenable mental/emotional things down pat that I admire, chances are I want to bag them/get bagged and be their right hand man. Don't care if they're tall or short or wide or narrow, cis parts, ->-bleeped-<- parts, NO PARTS, 'just parts'. As far as preferences... Hrm.

Well, my track record has been... Lots of one night stand type deals with cis guys, but as far as 'relation->-bleeped-<-s'/ongoing arrangements are concerned...

1:Well, I dated a boy first (this was middle school) while I was crushing on a girl,
2:then got a girlfriend (one year or so, she was mostly lesbian),
3:then got with another girl (for another year or so, she was straight),
4:then had a boyfriend for about three months (he was gay),
5:another boyfriend for three months (in the closet),
6:ANOTHER boyfriend for eight months (bi-curious),
7&8: and am currently with: one pansexual cisgendered girl and one mostly lesbian bicurious transgirl.

So that makes... Four cis guys, and four women, one of whom also trans. I'd love to date another transguy, but I don't even know hardly any, much less any who'd be interested in in me romantically.

[aydan_boy]

I'm ALMOST much pansexual. I'm pretty open when it comes to relationships.  Men, Transmen, Transwoman, androgyne, tall, small, fat, thin, all kk with me. I just can't imagine myself ever in a relationship with a cis female. Most of the ones i've been close to, whether by force, or by chose, are pretty shallow, and too sensitive. Too much emotion. I guess i'm a bit sexist...If its possible for me to be that is...

[Evan]

LordKAT:

You're right, and I understand that it's only my opinion here.. but I feel that as transgendered individuals (or however someone choices to label themselves) that personal struggle should leave someone more capable to be open minded.. especially with oneself. Including who we are attracted to.

Kyril:

I don't know if you feel that I'm advocating for bi/pan sexuality with what I said, but I'm not. I don't consider myself either of those sexualities, nor do I care what anyone labels themselves. I probably chose my original wording very poorly. I agree with you that obviously gender is not meaningless, because obviously it does matter or why else transition like you said. But after the process of self acceptance that a person has to go through to admit that there is a need to transition, and any degree of a coming out process that goes with this. All I meant was that surely after all that we should be more equipped than your average cis gendered heterosexual individual to deal with something as really in the scheme of things unimportant as what gender we are attracted to.


But this is just my opinion, and respect if it's not anyone elses.

[Greg]

I've always been only attracted to women, preferably thick brunettes (Dr Who? psh.. Sara Ramirez from Greys Anatomy )..

Don't get me started on Sara Ramirez. Sex on legs. But then, most people in Grey's Anatomy are pretty hot.

[LordKAT]

Evan,

I'll agree that our inward soul searching does make it easier for us to accept the possibility of having other attractions than just the usual hetero ones. I was just wondering why you felt that way and you answered it well. I also think that may be why you see many who have more diverse attractions here at Susan's than you meet in the other 'normal' world. Those people who don't seek to understand their feelings are possibly denying their attractions. Thank you for replying.

[Charles321]

Hey, I'M new.

Anyways, before I came out I said I wasn't attracted to anyone because me and my family are strong Christians and I didn't want to be lesbian but I didn't feel comfortable dating guys and I would feel gay but I knew I wasn't gay. So to make everyone happy,  I said I would date a transwomen so its a little more appropriate to my religion. So I'm attracted to women.