Post op --Orgasm.

[Jessica.C]

How long after srs can you become sexually active?

Great question, I wonder the same thing myself. I think Bowers says 8 weeks and Brassard says 12 weeks. I would imagine every one is different depending on how well they heal and who they're have sex with.

Me personally i wanna make sure that am capable of having an orgasm before i have sex with some. I want my first time to be magical and don't think it would be if i couldn't feel a thing. 

[MsFierce]

They usually say you should wait 6-8 weeks. Brassard does say 12 weeks lol. But I think it all comes down to each her own.

I agree with Jessica, before I have sex with any guy I wanna get use to having a vagina first. see if I can play with myself and see if I can orgasm. Plus, I wanna be nice and healed up before sex

[mmelny]

With Suporn, there are a couple levels of sexual response to consider.

The old joke with his patients, is what Dr Suporn says, which is "no sexy thoughts", I'll call this rule #1.   Meaning don't get aroused if possible, for two months after surgery.  This is because swelling of tissue there can disrupt healing, bust stitches, etc.

The 2nd level, is self exploration, which can start at around month 2 (or a bit before, long as rule #1 is followed, gently, and no pulling or spreading of the labia lips during this time either.

The last level is penetrative sex, which is allowed at 3 months post op, and with a warning to take it easy.  I know that I attempted sex with a friend at 3 months post, and it was way to early for me.  I was just too numb, and he was too big.   I'm going back at it in a couple weeks, which would put me closer to 6 months post op.  (can't wait  )

Melan

[kaitlynm999]

I just wanted to share a very "interesting" thing that happened in my fourth week post op (June 1 birthday!)

I had my surgery with dr meltzer, and i dilate 4x a day...on friday nite, late...i was watching a tv show and there was a sex encounter and i started to feel aroused...so i allowed my mind to think those "sexy" thoughts, and altho i have to say i have very little feeling in the area, i did have strong pleasurable surges that seemed to come from inside me...i tried to orgasm but couldnt...oh well...

the next day i woke up and there was blood in my panties and i found that the bottom part of my clitoris had a big cut and was bleeding..i took good care of it over the weekend by holding it in place with gauze and it's fine today...but now i'm wondering if i caused that literally by stimulation!!!

no one in dr meltzers camp said anything about this...  i wonder if its even possible...

[MsFierce]

I just wanted to share a very "interesting" thing that happened in my fourth week post op (June 1 birthday!)

I had my surgery with dr meltzer, and i dilate 4x a day...on friday nite, late...i was watching a tv show and there was a sex encounter and i started to feel aroused...so i allowed my mind to think those "sexy" thoughts, and altho i have to say i have very little feeling in the area, i did have strong pleasurable surges that seemed to come from inside me...i tried to orgasm but couldnt...oh well...

the next day i woke up and there was blood in my panties and i found that the bottom part of my clitoris had a big cut and was bleeding..i took good care of it over the weekend by holding it in place with gauze and it's fine today...but now i'm wondering if i caused that literally by stimulation!!!

no one in dr meltzers camp said anything about this...  i wonder if its even possible...

premature sex or ''arousal thinking'' can be very traumatic and may open up incision lines and incite inflammation and infection.

4 weeks is really to soon to try anything.

[tori319]

how do you dilate if you can't spread it open?

[kaitlynm999]

I saw my doctor about the situation, and also talked to my surgeon's office...

It was a liquefied clot seeping out ..i couldnt stop the bleeding for many hours, but it was really more like draining...

totally benign..(messy and yucchy- but nothing to worry about)..

[blondwidowspider]

I saw my doctor about the situation, and also talked to my surgeon's office...

It was a liquefied clot seeping out ..i couldnt stop the bleeding for many hours, but it was really more like draining...

totally benign..(messy and yucchy- but nothing to worry about)..

Ouch... hope it doesn't hurt too much! Feel better! 

[Autumn]

Whenever a GG friend of yours tells you, "At least you don't bleed."

Punch her in the face.

[kaitlynm999]

Whenever a GG friend of yours tells you, "At least you don't bleed."

Punch her in the face.

So far that hasn't happened to me, but if it does I love your answer!

[Debra]

I am 6 weeks post june 15th and i had my FIRST ORGASM.  Oh my god.  I hadnt had one of those eva.  I was just feeling antsy and heavy down there and i started touching myself and within 4 to 5 mins, i had the most explosive feeling i have ever encountered.  I just sat in amazement for 10 minutes coming down off of the hi.  I looked down right after and saw that i was extremely wet and i got a mirror and a spotlight and much to my surprise, I had ejaculated just like the females I have seen in video clips.  I was told by the nurse that ejaculation probably wouldn't occur and she was DEAD WRONG.  I was so amazed that I took pictures and I have proof that it did occur.  (5more times right after that).  Yes, 5 more times.  within 6 hrs and all of them were just like the first.  I dont want to get graphic but you will know your body and it is nothing wrong with exploring it.  I was afraid at first but I was extremely heavy down there and feeling and little warm.  Now, I DIDNT bother the clit directly because that seems to be the last thing to heal and i was afraid but when it DOES heal, all hell will probably break loose.  I am sure it is healed a lot but afraid right now to touch it to see.  It just peaked its little head out about 3 days ago.

OMG wow girl! =)

[Colleen Ireland]

OMG, this is SUCH a good thread!  I'm just barely starting down this road, and I'm reading everything I can, and reading this sort of stuff is SO encouraging.  Thank you, girls, for being brave enough to be so graphic!  I luv it!

[FairyGirl]

With Suporn, there are a couple levels of sexual response to consider.

The old joke with his patients, is what Dr Suporn says, which is "no sexy thoughts", I'll call this rule #1.   Meaning don't get aroused if possible, for two months after surgery.  This is because swelling of tissue there can disrupt healing, bust stitches, etc.

The 2nd level, is self exploration, which can start at around month 2 (or a bit before, long as rule #1 is followed, gently, and no pulling or spreading of the labia lips during this time either.

The last level is penetrative sex, which is allowed at 3 months post op, and with a warning to take it easy.  I know that I attempted sex with a friend at 3 months post, and it was way to early for me.  I was just too numb, and he was too big.   I'm going back at it in a couple weeks, which would put me closer to 6 months post op.  (can't wait  )

Melan

sounds like good advice Melan, thanks! but geez, no sexy thoughts for 2 months?? I'm already having sexy thoughts with my dilators! lol  Still a month to go, I'm doomed 

[lilacwoman]

That procedure does because the colon is mucosal.  But, from what I understand, the amount of moisture can be overwhelming, and most patients end up wearing pads most of their life.  As well, I hear it does not smell all too pretty

I asked the very experienced surgeon who will do mine soon and he said there shoudln't be much moisture post-op and that the lining does become mucosal after about 6 months.
I'm under the impression that the Cowpers Glands work during sexual arousal?
And that the discharge during sex is actually from the seminal vesicles - these stop working during pre-op high estrogen but post-op low estrogen woudl logically make them work again to cause the climactic discharge?  I'll ask the surgeon for his opinion of this when I see him in a few weeks time.

[Rosa]

I have two questions:

1)  So if you wait 3 months before doing much of anything, when you do start to explore or have feelings, is there any tearing of scare tissue or pain?  I mean, everything had 3 months to heal in place.

2)  Does the scrotal skin graph that forms the vagina actually develop sensitivity inside? 

[rejennyrated]

I have two questions:

1)  So if you wait 3 months before doing much of anything, when you do start to explore or have feelings, is there any tearing of scare tissue or pain?  I mean, everything had 3 months to heal in place.

2)  Does the scrotal skin graph that forms the vagina actually develop sensitivity inside?

Two good questions. To answer them individually:

1. No because every single day since you will have been inserting vaginal stents at least twice and day and for the first month three times a day to prevent any scar tissue forming and to keep everything stretched and flexible. So if you followed the surgeons routine correctly there should be no pain and no tearing. Period.

2. Yes of course - as long the surgeon did the job well you should have full sensitivity. A very few unlucky people do not because anatomy varies, but in my experience the surgeons are pretty careful and do everything humanly possible to avoid cutting nerves.

[Rosa]

Follow up: 

What about the clitoris and how it is stitched to the body?  Is there pain when it engorges with blood, or is it one of those things that is just worth it the first few times?

So, do nerves actually grow into the vaginal skin graft from the body?

While I'm asking - how much muscular control do you have with the vagina?  Do the same muscles that stop the pee and contract during male orgasm enable you to tighten the vagina?

[rejennyrated]

Follow up: 

What about the clitoris and how it is stitched to the body?  Is there pain when it engorges with blood, or is it one of those things that is just worth it the first few times?

So, do nerves actually grow into the vaginal skin graft from the body?

While I'm asking - how much muscular control do you have with the vagina?  Do the same muscles that stop the pee and contract during male orgasm enable you to tighten the vagina?

I don't know how it is attached - no there is no pain involved. And yes the pleasure is awesome. I would say quite literally mind blowing! It's not just the first few times. It remains awesome even now.

Muscular control is, for me, excellent, the muscles are in part those that you use to stop pee - but there are others too and yes I can squeeze my vagina in various different ways.

As I understand it the original nerves in the skin are preserved they are just in a new position within the body... and one of the fascinating things for me was how quickly my brain automatically adjusted it's body map so that I knew where the nerves now were and my mental image of the sensations matched the new reality - ie I could feel, without having to think about it, that those nerves were now on an "inside" part on me.

[Rosa]

Is clitoral sensitivity about the same as what you had for the glans, or can it increase?  I'm wondering you get more sensitive because everything is concentrated in a much smaller area compared to before.

[Jessica.C]

I don't know how it is attached - no there is no pain involved. And yes the pleasure is awesome. I would say quite literally mind blowing! It's not just the first few times. It remains awesome even now.

Muscular control is, for me, excellent, the muscles are in part those that you use to stop pee - but there are others too and yes I can squeeze my vagina in various different ways.

As I understand it the original nerves in the skin are preserved they are just in a new position within the body... and one of the fascinating things for me was how quickly my brain automatically adjusted it's body map so that I knew where the nerves now were and my mental image of the sensations matched the new reality - ie I could feel, without having to think about it, that those nerves were now on an "inside" part on me.

Very encouraging words Jenny thanks.

I think I'm starting to get more nervous about the surgery and recovery as i read some of the complications that have come up for girls.