Passed off as a "Sir" today at a resturant!!

[Matthew J. F]

I was at a restaurant with my father and some friends earlier today and the waiter (a man) called me a sir the whole time. I honestly didn't work all that hard to be passed off as a male... I don't blind nor do I use an ace bandage to sink my moobs.

I was wearing black and green tripp baggy shorts (that can be turned into pants) along with my black tank top. My hair is shorter then is shown on my avatar as I gave myself a semi crew cutt a few weeks ago and since then my hair grew taller. I was wearing my rayban sunclasses.

I haven't had such great feeling like this before. It was AWESOME!

FYI: My next haircut would be a full crewcutt that is going to look exactly like this


I cant wait for it.

[Squirrel698]

Well done!  It's a good feeling to be seen for what you are.  That has happened to me a time or two but usually after I open my mouth it all goes away.  Hopefully T will help with that.  Eventually.

Awesome haircut idea.  I hope you don't have to feminine of a shape to your head because that will just highlight it but if you don't go for it

[Matthew J. F]

I was enjoying myself too much to be opening my mouth. I was smiling and telling myself deep inside "Hell yeah!"

I'm current now on T at this time... my voice sounds very feminine but still manage to be called a sir from the waiter today. It's amazing! Maybe it was my hair? Not sure.

This is not the first time that I was called a sir. I was at the YMCA a few month ago and the entrance greeter greeted me with "Hello sir". From that moment I had such a great workout. It was the perfect timing too.

I'm not sure if I have a femine shape head... It's hard to tell. I wish I had the facial hair

[Squirrel698]

Interesting.  How long have you been on T?  I was hoping my voice would change right away, but it's taking it's time.  I'm only on a gel right now so perhaps when I start the injections in 10 days it will hurry that process along. 

I was watching 4 year olds at church today and almost everyone of them referred to me as a daddy or a guy.  It was probably the tie.  I enjoy children at that age because they take things at face value. 

When I do get called Sir, it's normally by someone not of my race.  When I talk then they realize or hand over a credit card that has my female name on it.  I think I'm just going to stick to sign language and cash from now on. 

[Roro]

I think I'm just going to stick to sign language and cash from now on.

Think I'll be joining you there.

[Matthew J. F]

Squirrel698, Sorry I meant to say that I'm current "Not" on T at this time. It was a simple typo. I didn't caught the error up until now. Sorry for the misinformation.

I am however reconsidering the idea of seeing a therapist that deals with gender disorders. I honestly hate seeing a therapist because I know I'm not crazy but I guess I have to use some strict discipline and to go get what I want.

I am hoping that I can talk to my regular doctor about the possibility of getting T (So that my insurance can pay for it) from that way. The problem is that instead of PMS... I have PMDD = Premenstrual dysphoric disorder which causes me to have several depression that causes me to have suicidal feelings and thoughts.

I am very well against the idea of Anti depressants and refuse to take them.

At this time I cannot afford to get T

[Silver]

Better question: how did you not pass before?

Really, from you pictures the people around you must be really oblivious to how you look. Definitely not a female.

[FolkFanatic]

Passing is always a mood booster. 

I rarely pass. If i'm lucky and i keep my mouth shut, then i just get neutral greetings (IE no "miss", "ma'am", etc which i used to get a LOT) or no greetings and just a simple head nod.  Which i'm fine with, considering i'm not on T yet.

I'm happy though - past week alone i successfully passed twice.

First time was with a friend at a local horse show - we where in line for food and a woman bumped into us and said "sorry, excuse me girls... (glanced at me) uh, and boys.. boy.... uh, sorry!" Then she laughed at herself and walked off.

Second time was at our garage sale on Saturday - older gentleman my grandfather knew was talking to my grandpa about something internet-wise. The guy turned to me, said something about wireless internet, clapped me on the shoulder and said "i bet this young man here could tell me more about this internet business than you Pat!"

Best thing about that is that my dad was sitting right next to my grandpa. Both of them heard that comment, so did my mom standing across the driveway. NO ONE corrected the guy. Not even my grandpa (who doesn't know about me yet.) Everyone just laughed and agreed.

I dunno if they where being polite by not correcting this older guy but i thought for sure my dad would have said something. Or given me a look. But nope, nadda. Usually they have to qualms correcting something like that.....

Ah well. I was happy the rest of the day.