Still living with a mother who is not supportive

[michael 19 jones]

Yeah I'm still living with my parents. Going to college is very expensive. Especially if your paying your own way in. 

Well I've been trying to physically transition for almost two years now but not having anyone besides a best friend (who is a straight male BTW) who is supportive in your living area just pisses me off sometimes. My best friend doesn't have a job right now so we can't move in together. So I can start living as me and not as the 'old' me. There are days that I just want to walk around in a skirt and I can't do that without my own mother giving me THE LOOK. I know I'm 22 almost 23 years old but I'm still afraid of the look from my mother. Other women really don't have that affect on me.

[JessicaR]

I'm almost 40 and I had to move back in with my Mom after my divorce. I have child support to pay and I took a step down at my job to transition so I have no hope of living on my own anytime soon. I've been in transition for about 5 years, out for 2 1/2, and I still get strange looks from Mom. It takes a very long time, frustratingly so, for a Mother to accept a gender incongruous child. I still get referred to as "he" or "him" sometimes and that flies up my ass!    On the other hand, my Mom is helping me pay for GRS, so I know she loves and supports me.
  All I can suggest is that you stand firmly in your gender but take a gentle approach when it comes to how you look. I've realized that it's really the physical changes that freak people out...  When we come out, folks are hit with your new look like a ton of bricks... Just give it time...  In the beginning I found myself watching for reactions but now that I don't look for them I very rarely notice.
  I keep precious to me those unique moments when passing and just being accepted as another girl stand out in memory...  Like going to the clinic and being asked when my last period was :-) "That would be a neat trick," I respond as I point out the "M" on the form.

[YellowDaisy]

Yeah I'm still living with my parents. Going to college is very expensive. Especially if your paying your own way in. 

Well I've been trying to physically transition for almost two years now but not having anyone besides a best friend (who is a straight male BTW) who is supportive in your living area just pisses me off sometimes. My best friend doesn't have a job right now so we can't move in together. So I can start living as me and not as the 'old' me. There are days that I just want to walk around in a skirt and I can't do that without my own mother giving me THE LOOK. I know I'm 22 almost 23 years old but I'm still afraid of the look from my mother. Other women really don't have that affect on me.

a mom can have that effect on you. i have that happen to me sometimes as well, but i just remind myself that it doesn't matter if she's my mom. she's just another person in my life. whether she likes or hates who i am, it's not going to stop me from being myself. sometimes it's going to be a battle, depending on the type of mom you have, but getting caught up in what other people think about you never did anyone any good. besides, she's going to have to wipe that look off of her face eventually.