Family - Fathers

[Korlee]

I really didn't want to bump that old thread.  I do not have a livejournal, a myspace, anything like that.  However I just wanted to tell peeps because it was the most pleasant surprise I have ever had in my life.

Those who read that other thread know my family... is meh to be polite.  I haven't spoken to my father in over ten years.  So far my family has either been evil or just denial.  However a few weeks ago I got the number for my father from my sister.  I called him today.  I got the best surprise of my life.  He just wants me to be happy.

I spoke mildly and worked to coming out to him.  He had a transgender friend once but they never kept contact.  Used them as an example to work into it.  Well I told him and got the best surprise.  He is okay with it and wants me to be happy.  Even offered to get Susan's number his friend that lived in Oklahoma that moved away.  So I'd have someone to talk to.  We talked about the past, good memories, what would make me happy.  He laughed at things I didn't even notice I was doing when speaking about my family such as breast size and not big enough.  Said it was the way I said it.  He even corrected himself right away from son to my kid.  We talked for like 4 hours. 

I really didn't expect a positive reaction on it.  Also you know the last time we met we had a horrible fight and I was tossed on a car.  So ya.. I expected the worst and got the best.  I wish I had kept in contact him.  I regret not doing so... so much right now.  I feel like crying but at the same time I can't. 

My father loves me despite it all and supports me.  I think this is happiness isn't it?  This what we all want right?  My father is just so awesome to me right now despite everything done in the past.  I wish everyone had a father like that.  I'm not sure what to do with this info but damn... best thing to happen to far to a jobless loser like me.

[sarahm]

You are not a jobless loser! We are all going through things that require the most of our attention so don't even think that you are a loser!

I am very pleased that your Father took it so well, My father was hard to come out to, because I was scared of his reaction.

[aydan_boy]

Your Dad sounds kinda nice.  10 years is a bit long for someone to come around, though.  Congrats on getting part of your family back.

[justmeinoz]

I am happy for you, my father passed away over 30 years ago, so I can't let him know how I feel. 
I agree you are not a jobless loser, there are a lot of people in the US in the same boat, through no fault of there own, from what I have read.

[Korlee]

Aydan, He has his quarks... but he has never stopped loving me even after the fight.  I really should have given him the benefit of the doubt.  He isn't my mother, my sister, or even his mother.  He is his own person. 

I'm still smiling about it today.  There is a family member that I can be me around.  He won't smirk, shake his head, walk away, or anything if I am just me!  He offered to pay to fly me out there to see him and fly me back.  I think I am going to work in a good date for it.  I'm going to go see my father after ten years... haha!

[K8]

How wonderful, Korlee!  That kind of complete acceptance is priceless.

No regrets.  You have a good thing going now, so don't look back and regret the past.  Just move on from here.

I am glad for you that you have at least one family member who loves you for you.

- Kate