Update on family

[Calistine]

I have filed for my name to be legally changed, and my therapist said we will write a letter so I can have my license changed so it says male. I still have to wait a year for t though;my therapist wants to make sure Im ready.

This is just something thats bothering me with my family. Not that they aren't accepting.
My dad is the best with this right now. He calls me by my new name most of the time and uses pronouns as little as possible. He does slip up sometimes but I understand so I give him a lot of credit.
My mom is having a really hard time still but she's getting better. She doesn't agree with me transitioning, but she genuinelly does try to call me my nickname(KC) and to call me male pronouns at least around my girlfriend. So yes I am impressed.
My sister, who is 16, despite never giving me trouble and telling me she is cool with it is the worst right now. She is not even trying. I can't read her mind so I don't know if its ever crossed her mind to try, but she has NEVER called me male pronouns or my new name. In fact she once called me him BY ACCIDENT, and "corrected" herself. Somebody even asked her once how I was doing and she was like Wtf is Kyle?
She tells me multiple times in one sentence "When I call you she or whatever its not because I am not accepting its because its what Im used to dont be upset because im not against you blah blah blah"
But she's not even trying. And she sees my parents trying and still does it. And by default, her boyfriend of almost 2 years is not trying either. She outed me to her boss which pisses me off because I am only finishing off this school year and then I am male full time. I told her that was wrong and I got blamed saying I need to relax and that she can't put me as her brother on applications, which she will never even need to do anyway. It's wrong. I don't want her boss to think Im a she, its not correct.
Ugh...

[Inkwe Mupkins]

I know where your coming from except my mom isn't excepting at all.

Your sister is like my aunt. She just cant change two little words, my name and the pronoun. She is identical to your sister. She says she just can't do those things and my brother is the same way. When I meet new ppl my brother and mom are like oh this is my daughter/sister Tasha. Pisses me off to high heaven, because thats not who I am.

[zombiesarepeaceful]

That's why I cut ties with anyone who disrespects me like that. Obviously you can't do that with your family so...I'd personally correct her relentlessly. But that's cause people calling me she makes me extremely enraged and I end up punching walls or wanting to hurt myself...so I either make sure peopel get it right, or ignore them if they're gonna get it wrong.

[Carson]

my little sister is 16 also and she was the same way. I came out to my family over a year ago and my sister just started calling me carson and using male pronouns. It took her awhile to come around just because of the "sister" relationship thing. Your sister will come around too. Telling people is how girls deal with it sometimes unfortunately.

[Calistine]

my little sister is 16 also and she was the same way. I came out to my family over a year ago and my sister just started calling me carson and using male pronouns. It took her awhile to come around just because of the "sister" relationship thing. Your sister will come around too. Telling people is how girls deal with it sometimes unfortunately.

My sister apparently told my dad that she still sees me as her sister and whatever. And actually many girls will not listen to you if you just tell them stuff. I know women that if you try to tell them they have a problem they don't want to hear it. I listen if you tell me something but that's probably because I have aspergers and get really guilty.

[KaleisGood4U]

Your sister is 16.  In many ways, she's still a little girl.  While it's hard to keep in perspective, you just can't apply adult motives to her.  She's just ignorant and young.

[Calistine]

Your sister is 16.  In many ways, she's still a little girl.  While it's hard to keep in perspective, you just can't apply adult motives to her.  She's just ignorant and young.

I'm 18, and my younger friends are accepting of me. She's not ignorant, she's just not used to this. I just wish she'd at least try but I have to give it time.

[Evan]

My little sister and Mom are doing the same thing, but it's definitely more out of 24 years of habit than any lack of acceptance. Have you tried the "who are you talking to" game? I started that recently and it's been helping. You may think she's not ignorant at 16, because your younger friends are doing fine.. but maybe the better way to phrase this is that at 16 she is very me centric (not a word, I know). Anything that most teenagers see as not effecting them isn't worth the effort. Or if it's deemed to be too much effort, and not enough effecting them, why should they care? You might try again, talking to her alone, to stress how her actions are hurting you, the persons that she's claiming to love and accept.

[Carson]

My sister apparently told my dad that she still sees me as her sister and whatever.

my sister did the same thing but to my mom, now she is great, just give her time. she will come around.