My mother is very interested in the fact that I have high-functioning aspergers, so she is constantly doing research about the syndrome, seeing as she is simply interested in such things. She, however, always looks up aspergers in
girls specifically, and has before told me "But sometimes aspergers is expressed differently in girls!" when I said I don't possess all the traits. It absolutely infuriated me.
Although, she's trying. I don't blame her for it. It's just that sometimes what she does annoys me, which is perfectly reasonable. It even hurts me sometimes, but I try to see past it, and instead focus on their progress in accepting me and adjusting.
For instance, today we had a conversation over lunch about men and women, and I expressed some of my negative views of female bodies. I have them because of my body, however; I am pansexual, although she doesn't necessarily know this. She said "Well, you're certainly not heterosexual then." I was actually sort of confused/shocked at first, because that's... unlike her to say.
My father used to call me "girl" until I told him I hated it, that I was not a girl. He now calls me "man". Sometimes it felt like he was just over-compensating, but now it's become more natural.
I love my parents. I am very lucky. They have done so much for me. They slip up occasionally but I'm grateful for everything they've done. It's not perfect, but it's definitely something.
On another note, pretty much any recognition of my female body, or assertion that I am female in any way, offends me. Of course, I hate the classic "Hey, ladies" I get when eating out with my mother. Although sometimes my father and brother get that, too, as they have long hair... I remember once, we all went out for dinner and we were addressed as "ladies", and my mother goes, "Wow, I'm the only one they got right."
