How do I explain to my parents I'm supposed to be a girl?

[justsomekid1]

I was born both female and male. I live as a boy been raised one. Well since puberty I have noticed is far more feminine even with the mdication. I feel like neither but most my friends are girls. I'd like to be neither but the dillema I'm hating is if I just am a guy but my body's of a girl then I don'treally  know how I could go on like this. I want to tell my parents but I can't tell them I feel like a girl because I don't. Bu I don't want my boobs to be removed either so how shoul I goabout this to convince them that I really want to be a girl but not for emotional reasons.

[Lachlann]

I think you've got the wrong section. You'd probably be better off posting this in MTF or intersex.

But really, it is an emotional decision to a great degree I think. In the case of intersex children, I think(and many doctors) it's important they decide for themselves what their gender identity is. Don't let your parents choose for you.

[K8]

First, welcome to Susan's, JustSomeKid. 

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And as an answer your question: Whether you are really a boy or a girl or neither is something that is in your brain.  Or you could see it as in your heart – your soul.  You might explain to your parents that it is not for emotional reasons that you want to be a girl – it is because that is what you are in your soul.

Good luck.

- Kate

[Hermione01]

I was born both female and male. I live as a boy been raised one. Well since puberty I have noticed is far more feminine even with the mdication. I feel like neither but most my friends are girls. I'd like to be neither but the dillema I'm hating is if I just am a guy but my body's of a girl then I don'treally  know how I could go on like this. I want to tell my parents but I can't tell them I feel like a girl because I don't. Bu I don't want my boobs to be removed either so how shoul I goabout this to convince them that I really want to be a girl but not for emotional reasons.

From your pictures posted in other thread you definitely look female. Can't your parents see that too? I think you should talk to your doctor and/or therapist.

[aydan_boy]

Wrong section, but what the hell:
If there the nicer kind of adult, go straight out and tell them, sit them down, preferably when there in a good mood, and tell them how you feel, then hope for the best. If there not so open to this kind of gender related thing, then maybe a letter? Slide it under there bedroom door, send it via email while your at work/school/out or maybe get a school counseler, or therapist if you have one to help you get your feelings about what you want to be/are through to them. Hopefully they will be understanding. Best of luck, justsomekid1.

[K8]

Aydan_boy has a good suggestion - enlisting the help of another adult, such as a counselor or teacher or doctor.  You don't have to do this alone.

- Kate

[justsomekid1]

From your pictures posted in other thread you definitely look female. Can't your parents see that too? I think you should talk to your doctor and/or therapist.

well yeah but at my age it all just takes hair to look more or less feminine. My parents blame it on how I dress really

I thought I remove this thread