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Started by barbie, June 07, 2010, 05:34:05 PM

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barbie

As it is getting warmer and clothes become thin, people here talk more about their body shape.

Yesterday, a woman in my place seriously asked me whether I do something for 'managing' my body shape. I said yes and explained briefly the principle of aerobic exercise. She sighed and she can not run even 2 km. I replied you can gradually increase running time and distance.

Those women who have daughters in school feel a lot of pressure with respect to their appearance. If they look fat or aged, their daughters ask them not to visit their school. The same situation for men. One of my colleagues purchased a very expensive wig, as his daughter straightforwardly asked her dad not to appear in her classroom. After wearing the wig, his daughter welcomed her dad.

As the media constantly emphasize beauty and fitness, parents here are facing new challenges. I can hear many stories that women successfully decreased their weight by 30% by diet after hearing bad comments from their daughters.

Women in my workplace tend to comment that I am the slimmest person there, and some say they wish to exchange their legs with mine. They do not seem to be jealous of me, but anyway they do say they envy me. I am not quite sure whether they indeed envy me, as many men and fewer women have been negative on my long hair and wearing women's dress at workplace.

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VelindaSalazar

The media portrays thinness as an attribute of a beautiful person.  The reality is that not everyone can be so thin and slender, so when people are not able to reach this rare attainable goal of the media's idea of perfection, people become envious of others because they are denied what they want and think is worth having.  Beauty, in today's society, is power, and many people want power; they want to be looked upon as an elite--someone special and of importance.  Unfortunately, people forget that they, individually, are important; each person means something and has value.  We are unique with different attributes and characteristics.  Most importantly, the person behind the physical appearance is really a person who is beautiful with depth, color, variety, and uniqueness.  What we see is only a medium that allows us to connect to the soul of an individual.  The medium is just one part, and the media and people focus too much on it that they forget the soul of an individual is much more beautiful than any physical appearance the world could offer.  So why be envious?  In my opinion, we think the grass is greener on the other, which in reality, it never is.
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uni

I don't think childrens' embaressment is based on their parents looks as much as it is on simply having parents. My mother is fit and attractive yet my younger siblings don't want to be seen with her if their friends are there. No matter how cool she looks for her age, being a mom automatically makes her "uncool". When I was younger I would always go over to other people's houses not wanting them to meet my parents and be surprised at how much older and heavier their parents were compared with mine. My friends, however, didn't seem to mind.

Women are naturally envious of what they want and can't have. It's usually not harmful unless they start making rude comments. Either way I think that way too much emphasis is put on body image.
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barbie

Yesterday I attended an international meeting.

One guy who sat beside me straightforwardly asked one of my female colleague whether she envies me for body shape. She is younger than me and very tall, and I think her body shape looks fine. But, she clearly replied "Yes. I envy him"  :o.

And several persons who I met first time commented that they were shocked as I turned out to be a man after chatting with me ;D

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bernii

Well barbie :)

I congratulate you for your confidence in your physique.

Continue to take care of yourself, and live the way you want to be.

Transitioning is not a competition. To acknowledge that you are transgendered is to acknowledge yourself.

You do not have to prove anything to us.... OK?

All my love

Brenda
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barbie

Quote from: bernii on June 10, 2010, 09:32:07 PM
Well barbie :)

Transitioning is not a competition. To acknowledge that you are transgendered is to acknowledge yourself.

You do not have to prove anything to us.... OK?

All my love

Brenda

Hi, Brenda,

Thanks for comments. BTW, I am not in transitioninng. I am just in aging. And I do not try to prove anything here  ;).

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