Lots of Questions, Transitioning, Love, other peoples feelings

[nmason]

What do you think....
Sacrificing your happiness for the 1 that loves you the way you are?
Is that an big enough sacrifice for love?
Stay Male or Female?
I got the impression tonight that she is happy because I got a hug tonight from my SO before she went to bed for the first time in months.
I have put transitioning on hold due to the lack of disposable money to pay the "gap" in the psychiatrists fee and what "Medicare" covers.
Has that made her happy?
I would like to think that its because she is slowly accepting me being trans?
Any comments welcome

[spacial]

I'm basically in the same situation.

My wife has been the best friend anyone could ever ask for. I know, for certain, I wouldn't have survived without her and her incredable tolerance and support.

I'd do anything for her and give up anything.

I know what I am and so does she. But her own background, especially her large extended family, wouldn't understand.

Nothing is too much for her. My life is hers anyway. I wouldn't be here without her.

So, I wouldn't make a single step without her complete support and encouragement.

[nmason]

Thanks Spacial
You understood my ramblings. I was on a high, low etc. when I wrote the thread.
I am so mixed up with our physical contact. Its on and off.
Your words, have comforted me.
Everything is on hold, until I can get myself together I think

[Mischa]

putting it on hold is probably your best best. You should really address these with her if it your intention on staying together. You both have to be honest about the situation. Because the reality of it is that it is a life altering event.

My ex couldn't bear the pressure and caved under her family and public opinion. It was really tough for me because she said we would always be together.

For me in the end it came down to the saying: Its better to be hated for who you are, than loved for what you are not.
Good luck my friend, and remember sometimes the only way to the light is through the dark tunnel.

[Just Kate]

What do you think....
Sacrificing your happiness for the 1 that loves you the way you are?
Is that an big enough sacrifice for love?
Stay Male or Female?
I got the impression tonight that she is happy because I got a hug tonight from my SO before she went to bed for the first time in months.
I have put transitioning on hold due to the lack of disposable money to pay the "gap" in the psychiatrists fee and what "Medicare" covers.
Has that made her happy?
I would like to think that its because she is slowly accepting me being trans?
Any comments welcome

If you aren't going to transition, do it because you are ready to take responsibility for making that choice - it is YOUR choice not hers - you must choose not to for you, not for her.

If you do it for her, you will blame her, and resent her, and your marriage will suffer, and 10 years from now, with your marriage in shambles, you will blame her for not starting earlier and finally transition - miserably aware of the time you lost.

Don't make the mistake so many others before you have.  I'm not advocating you transition, I am advocating you owning that choice.