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Hope Resides in the Genderqueer and Transgressive

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Hope Resides in the Genderqueer and Transgressive
by dentedbluemercedes
May 30, 2010

http://dentedbluemercedes.wordpress.com/2010/05/30/hope-resides-in-the-genderqueer-and-transgressive/

As time goes on, something happens to a transitioned transsexual.  It has a lot to do with why the transsexed side of the trans continuum tends not to have many long-term advocates.

I first came to realize it over a discussion with someone long transitioned who was still involved with the LGBT community, but it was largely forgotten that she'd had a trans history.  Although the cerebral knowledge and empathy for trans issues were there, the memory had faded to the point where it was hard for her to recall the experiences personally, where it seemed to her as though everything had happened to someone else.  This is not a bad thing — for those of us who transition, it's the whole point: to put the years of hiding and fakery and anxiety behind to finally be able to start at square one, build a life that fits for oneself, and leave the anxieties and depression behind.  She had accomplished that, and I realized early into my advocacy that there was likely a certain amount of inevitability to at least some of that.  It's like anything else support-oriented: eventually you accomplish what you'd hoped for, and move on — a necessary part of the healing.

"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde


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Hope Resides in the Genderqueer and Transgressive
by dentedbluemercedes
30 May, 2010


http://dentedbluemercedes.wordpress.com/2010/05/30/hope-resides-in-the-genderqueer-and-transgressive/


As time goes on, something happens to a transitioned transsexual.  It has a lot to do with why the transsexed side of the trans continuum tends not to have many long-term advocates.

I first came to realize it over a discussion with someone long transitioned who was still involved with the LGBT community, but it was largely forgotten that she'd had a trans history.  Although the cerebral knowledge and empathy for trans issues were there, the memory had faded to the point where it was hard for her to recall the experiences personally, where it seemed to her as though everything had happened to someone else.  This is not a bad thing — for those of us who transition, it's the whole point: to put the years of hiding and fakery and anxiety behind to finally be able to start at square one, build a life that fits for oneself, and leave the anxieties and depression behind.  She had accomplished that, and I realized early into my advocacy that there was likely a certain amount of inevitability to at least some of that.  It's like anything else support-oriented: eventually you accomplish what you'd hoped for, and move on — a necessary part of the healing.
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