does it ever get better?

[confused]

i'm in such a bad time of my life right now . everything just keeps getting worse and harder and i just can't deal with it anymore . i never talk with anyone irl about it because it will only feel worse , and there's not much to say other than that i'm a major failure that no one really like . i've never seen someone that is such a looser who can't even adapt with the world as i am , and i'm so sad and so tired , and i just want to really die but i'm scared of death , i know no one cares and even if someone does there's no use , i don't know why i'm even writing this here , but i'm guessing i don't wanna feel so alone but the truth is i am , and we all are  and i wonder , does it ever get better ?

[no_id]

Well, you are writing this so in a way you are coping which means that you are strong enough to pick up life by the collar and give it a good pimp slap. Trust me; it's far more fun to slap life than yourself. Life is something you can change by throwing in some change in yourself. It's almost like a cat and mouse game. Suprise life and life will surprise you.

How's that for some neat philosophy on a Saturday?

[FairyGirl]

lol no_id that's some excellent philosophy

It does get better, but sometimes we have to be responsible for making that happen too, with a little help. The main thing is: don't give up. No one is a 'major failure'; what does that even mean? You are you and no one else can do that as well as, well, you! However you got in this mess you can get yourself out. The best is yet to come, really!

[confused]

thanks , it's just that every time i i put a positive attitude and be optimistic , life does surprise me with bad surprises
i feel better right now than when i wrote that post , i think/hope the pattern could change for once..

[Shang]

thanks , it's just that every time i i put a positive attitude and be optimistic , life does surprise me with bad surprises
i feel better right now than when i wrote that post , i think/hope the pattern could change for once..

Changing the way you're thinking might help.  If something happens, like say someone crashes into your car with theirs and you live, think, "At least I'm not dead".  If someone dies, think "at least they're in a better place (or whatever their religious ideals were, if they had any". 

It takes a lot of work to try and see the positive side of things, but it can happen. For the longest time I was getting depressed and upset and saw no enjoyment in life, but once I changed how I was thinking (which I'm still working; like I said, it's hard work) things got better.