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Started by cithmore, June 28, 2010, 08:33:44 PM

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cithmore

I hope this thread is not a rehash in anyway.
My question is I guess 2 parts.
1.) What if any did your early family life factor in with your cross dressing?
2.) What if any is your family's reaction or response in your present lifestyle?
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NessaJ

I have an early memory of when I was maybe 5 or so, I played dress up with my sister's dresses, she would have been 3 and probably doesn't remember it.  When my mom found me she sorta freaked out and made me take it off.  I think I've repressed my desire to crossdress for most of my life since then because of that or fear of similar reactions.  I recently told my sister about my present crossdressing, she's the only family member I've told, and she was very supportive.  I don't know how the rest of my family would react now
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LordKAT

Cross dressing was a forced Sunday chore until about 5th grade. My lifestyle hasn't really changed but my life has. Well lifestyle as going form having a well paying job to min wage job I guess.
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Davie

Often my sister and friends woud be only in thier underwear when I was young.  At times my brother and I would run out of undrwear and were given nylon panties for the day. 
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My underdressing is 100% open to my family and there is no problem.  Not sure how things are going to be now since am seeking more feminine things and going to see a counsler to discuss feminization.   :icon_female: :icon_female:
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PhSensei

I was raised by women primarily until I was 8.  Mom had abuse issues as a child and lived a lesbiam lifestyle until I was about 8.  I remember hearing how horrible men were and remember thinking I didn't want to be a man when I grew up.  So to some extent I know this had an influence on my crossdressing.

I started out as a toddle gravitating towards womens legs in nylons.  In the 70's women always wore so apparently I had lots of opportunity (this I don't recall). My earliest memory is when I was about 4 I found some pantyhose and put my arm in them.  I eventually tried them on, and not knowing what they were I called them feel goods.  This continued on/off for years.

In the 4th grade I remember sitting in school seeing girls in skirts and hose thinking I was going to have to wear skirts etc if I was going to keep wearing pantyhose.  So when home alone one day I ventured into Moms closet... panties, hosiery, slips, dresses, skirts, blouses, heels... yeap, I tried them all.

I went through the normal cycles of guilt, stopping, starting, etc.  This went on all through my school years.  Even after Mom met and married my step Dad when I was 8 and had a positive male role model.

I joined the military at 18 in part as a way to force this CD side of me away.  It didn't work though... I CD'd a few times in the 2 years I was in... I wore my girlfriends things and moms things when home on leave.

Reactions to telling... well my ex wife hated me in pantyhose, and after a failed attempt to do a role reversal thing left anything but pantyhose behind.  She seemd to accept the hose for quite a while but thought it was a phase.  We seperated after being together for 10 years.  Up to that point she was the only person I told, and she used it to control me.  (Good riddance)

It was just easier to tell friends and family why we broke up than to spin a tale, so I told them the truth.  Most reactions were positive, but a few were thrown off and rude.  Mind you at this time I had repressed anything but pantyhose wearing.

As I dated and things went beyond a few dates I would share my wearing pantyhose... and it went well and was well accepted.  My 2nd wife took to it really well.  She liked the feel of them, and seeing me in them didn't put her off at all.

With such acceptance, the repressed desires came flooding back.  I shared this and my past with my then fiance'.  She took it in stride and decided to give it a try... she even went and bought me panties and later we went shopping.

She likes me in skirts, lingerie, etc.  She is my rock and helps make time in our busy complicated lives for me to dress.  We have been married for a year, so its well over 2 years since I dropped the CD bomb.

At this pont I have accepted who I am, what I wear, and what I'm about.  My wife accepts and supports me, and we have fun with it. Id like more time to dress, but I can't complain too much.
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spacial

PhSensei.

that is a great story. Thanks for sharing that.  :)
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barbie

For question 1, no effect in my case. For question 2, it's a too long story, but I already overcome all obstracles from my family or I know how much I am allowed to go.

Barbie~~
Just do it.
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CrazyTina

Quote from: PhSensei on June 29, 2010, 04:15:51 PM
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That was a really nice story. Its good you finally found a woman that understood you and cares about you regardless of what makes you happy and may put off other women.
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VelindaSalazar

1.) What if any did your early family life factor in with your cross dressing?

In my case, my early family life consisted of me and my sibling staying with my aunts to give my parents some time to work through their issues.  During this time, one aunt—my favorite at the time—would have me dress as girl before I would go to bed with her.  This experience, not having really known what was masculine or feminine, shaped the way I viewed clothing.  Unfortunately, this same aunt humiliated me when I attempted to wear other feminine clothes that she did not loan to me.  By the time this occurred, I had developed a bond to feminine clothing, which has last all of my life.

2.) What if any is your family's reaction or response in your present lifestyle?

I was caught twice wearing women's clothing as I grew up.  Once, I had decided to wear a swimsuit that I borrowed from my aunt.  It was red and had a yellow embroidered mark on it.  The day I wore it, my parents had me go with them to the store.  I quickly put my other clothes on top and went with them.  They had not noticed until we reached the cashier line when my mother noticed I was looking under my shirt a bit too often.  She found out what I was wearing and told my father in Spanish, laughingly.  I don't remember much after that, but I am certain I gave the swimsuit back.  They never discussed the incident again.

Another time, I stayed up late watching "The Best Little Whore House In Texas" on television.  For some strange reason, I ended up putting on my mother's bra and fell asleep.  In the morning, my mother found me on the couch the bra on.  I kind faked that I didn't know what happened, even though I remembered clearly.  I quickly took it off and gave it to her.  She thought I had been sleep walking since I was known to get up at night.  Again, the subject was never brought up.

I am sure my parents have an idea that I crossdress, but they tend not to mention it.  I do not mention it to them either.  Being the eldest, there is a lot of responsibility in my life, so I try to maintain that image of a good son while I find the balance between masculine and feminine sides. 
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