I wanted to join the Navy with my best friend, even before I began transition I considered it but they denied me due to an asthma problem. After they denied me I started T within about 2 months, a month after that the doctors put me in a little glass box and tested my breathing... I didn't have asthma! If I'd done that 3 months earlier I would have been in the military rather than transitioning right now. I still feel that it is a loss, the training and being able to travel (plus we could have been stationed together) *sigh*.
I also feel that I would have done really well there, she believes I wouldn't have been happy or lasted in the military. She is a life career person and has been in the Navy since we graduated high school. For some reason she can't understand or see that I'm actually very comfortable with my body and would have done fine living by their rules... I didn't want to make it a life long career, more of a shorter term thing that would have allowed me to save the money for my surgeries before I got out.
I think it's just so depressing that I didn't get in for a stupid reason that ended up not being accurate in the first place. I'd feel better if I didn't get in because I was trans or on hormones, or even because I was bipolar (hadn't been diagnosed at that point in time either). But no, I got denied because I had a stupid doctor when I was a teenager who misdiagnosed me several times with different things. I also have apparently had growing pains for like 8 years according to him. They didn't figure out that I had STOPPED growing and had an actual common hip problem in females (that wouldn't have gotten me denied from the military as a side note) until I was almost 20 years old and had to see a specialist after a dog attack. Somehow the fact that I hadn't gotten any taller since I was about 14 didn't change the "growing pains" theory he had.
Obviously I now have a different doctor since I'm old enough to choose one for myself and don't have insurance under my parents. I also realized he wasn't very comfortable with my transsexual identity.