The Neverending Story

[no_id]

Some of you might know that other threads tend to inspire me to make my own and this is one of those.
There's this thread right now called 'Moving on' which focuses on how some members leave after they have completed their transition. Of course that made me ponder 'I wonder how that works for Androgynes...'

I once left these forums during, what I now like to refer to as; 'The Great Battle of 2007'. Anyone who was around during that time probably knows what I'm referring to. For those who don't 'there was some friction' should suffice.
Now that I've been back a while I really have no clue if I'll ever leave since there isn't much of an 'end of the journey' chapter to be aware of. Surely, over the last few years I've come to understand more of my identity through interesting bouts of meditation (some solemn, some with others), but it doesn't seem like I'll ever be done.

Because of that; my experience and the strange, confusing world of androgyny I only think it's more important to stick around for whatever newbie wave makes their appearance.

So, what's your take on this? Do you think you'll ever be done here at Susan's and move ahead or is it just another big questionmark hovering over the purple fields?


Ps. yes I'm a big fan of The Neverending Story. I own it on blu-ray. 

[Crow]

I personally don't see myself leaving any time soon. Of course, people grow and change, and a lifetime is a long time to predict... but I can't think of anything that would happen in the forseeable future that would cause me to be "done" coming here.

I only have a very small handful of websites I'm actually active on, and once I find a niche, I usually stick to it like gorilla glue. To illustrate my point, there are only three sites I would consider myself to be a truly active part of: Here, DeviantArt, and a small Neopets-based art/character design forum... even though I no longer play neopets. XD

[Shang]

I don't see myself leaving anytime soon, but I'm also new here and this place has great advice and I can ask questions when I'm brave enough to.  I doubt I'll ever be done here, but I don't know.

[confused]

nah , i stick .
to elaborate, i don't usually participate in forums and/or social sites but once i'm on one it turns into an addiction or something like that ,but yet ,sometimes i leave places for reasons like "i don't feel comfortable here anymore" or "it's not the same place i joined anymore".. things like that , so i guess if i ever feel 'done' it would be irrelevant as to whether i'll stay here or not
like for example , when i first came here i was planning on transitioning and took some steps towards it , but then things happened that led me to cancel/postpone transitioning for unknown amount of time
and i'm still here

[Bombi]

As much as I've looked for an end or a conclusion to being in the middle, I can't imagine there being a ultimate destination. Remember we "drift". I've been with Susan's for almost 5 years and through that time I've gained insight about who and what I am from a gender perspective. That understanding came from you and your experiences and our interaction.
There are some smart people here and their experiences are important.

I've stayed away now and again but always come back to expand my paradigm and be a small part of the community. I still have a lot to learn and I believe the only people who can help me understand it are here.

No Id I also meditate and find that it helps to relieve stress and let unimportant thoughts leave the mind.

[Eva Marie]

Yes, I remember 'The Great Battle of 2007' 

I post a lot less and read a lot more now than when i first joined susans; the excitement I initially felt in discovering myself and that there were others like me has kind of worn off now.

And there are some nitpickers and criticizers here that have taken a lot of the fun away, and i've grown tired of their puerile ways.

So, i'll continue to swing through the site and post occasionally, keeping up with the people i'm familiar with.

[Rock_chick]

I'm sure I'll stick around...I'm still posting on a dance label forum 5 years after I liked any music of the genre they release and close to 8 since I bought anything that label released. hehe

[Crow]

I'm sure I'll stick around...I'm still posting on a dance label forum 5 years after I liked any music of the genre they release and close to 8 since I bought anything that label released. hehe

Sounds like me and my Neopets fansite addiction. XD

[no_id]

Heh I think your answers thus far seem pretty interesting... Many of you enlisted this site along other 'interest' sites and pretty much deal with it in the same fancy...

Seems like my initial assumption was pretty much correct; androgynes do deal with it this place differently...

No Id I also meditate and find that it helps to relieve stress and let unimportant thoughts leave the mind.

I have to admit I don't do it the fancy way, but things I read here do give me the opportunity to sit down and ponder to discover more answers and questions (that in return I can then share again).

I post a lot less and read a lot more now than when i first joined susans; the excitement I initially felt in discovering myself and that there were others like me has kind of worn off now.

Of course that initial 'omg... I'm not alone...' kind of died and subsided to a 'yeah, yeah, yeah... you're not alone newbie...'.
I do get excited everytime I discover something new though, when I learn something new or when I get to aid someone. I suppose the focus shifts.

[FlyerBullyBoyFanGirl]

well, i am a newbie.
i will be asking loads of questions.
i have barely figured out who i am, and i think it will be a neverending story.
since people evolve, even "us", the story will go on.

[Pica Pica]

I came to terms with all this stuff a while ago now. When I did, I stopped making films but I still come here. I'm not sure why, I spose there are people I like, I spose I like the reassurance of their being others out there and I spose I still find the odd thing that that makes me think.

[no_id]

I came to terms with all this stuff a while ago now. When I did, I stopped making films but I still come here. I'm not sure why, I spose there are people I like, I spose I like the reassurance of their being others out there and I spose I still find the odd thing that that makes me think.

But really you don't know why???

[RebeccaFog]

I know I quietly disappeared but then I mostly don't know what the hell I'm doing anyway.

I can tell you one good reason for me to be here is that, in real life, I am not intellectually challenged by the people I know. You all introduce me to new ideas and we've a tendency to allow ourselves to wander without regard to personal beliefs. For example, just being an androgyne puts us in a place that many people can not comprehend. My feeling is that this opens our minds to possibilities.

I think people here are intelligent and creative. It's more than enough to bring me back if I wander off. Don't tell no one I said that.

[Sevan]

I drift in and out....I feel like the newbie wave comes in and asks the questions we all ask (and with good reason...) I come in with the same answers I've always given and....that gets old for me. I feel like I just repeat myself. So I drift away....then come back to find threads I *do* want to post to....and then post. (like this one)

I don't mean to dog on newbies, we all must start somewhere. Everyone needs help too....

I guess it's like another site I'm on. I'm the only androgyn most of my friends there know. So about...once a week...I'm explaining my take on pronouns. Gets old a bit...ya know? Sometimes I like to think about things OTHER than gender. And I've never been involved in the fruit cake wars...lol

[no_id]

Hmmm I actually don't mind the newbie questions and I also noticed that I hardly give the same answers; they become more sensible as I develop and new ideas pop up on a daily basis. Of course it also depends on the person who asks them...

I wonder if that means that some androgynes simply stick around since they feel to be at a standstill and don't want the miss the opportunity to clutch onto anything that may renew them...
Food for thought.