Hi Jocelyn
I'm sorry you are frustrated but you need to get a new therapist as soon as possible. You current therapist or counsellor is not helping you and in fact is holding you back or maybe manipulating you. This is evident from what you have said for example, lecturing on gay issues, are you sure your not gay and even the audacity, 'she forgot about the SRS letter'. She is not a kind hearted women, because a therapist or counsellor is there to help you, not hinder you or to put obstacles in front of you.
Maybe go back for one more visit and say to her I would like my SRS letter and I would like it today or give her a couple of days to write the letter. If this is not possible then you need to take your losses and move on.
In which case you need to find another two therapists, counsellors or psychologists who specialises in transgender issues now. The WPATH standards generally require two letters for surgery and one for hormone treatment. So you actually need two 'therapists' for two surgery letters. So that you can change without further set backs, assuming that you are already on hormones. When you do seek out a new friendly 'therapist' you need to ask them, some of the following questions:
- Are they familiar with Gender Identity Disorder?
- Do they have any experience with treating it
- Do they have other patients with similar problems?
- Are they familiar with the World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH)? or the Standards of Care (SOC) and do they follow them?
- Are they able to write a letter for SRS or GRS?
When you see them, tell them, that you are seeking a letter stating that you can have SRS or GRS, tell them you have been seeing another therapist and have done so for the past year and tell them exactly, why you are seeking a new 'therapist'. I want your help to become the person I want to become.
Visit several 'therapists' so you can find one that you are comfortable with and state what you want and please don't be afraid to ask questions. Otherwise, how else will you ever get what you want, if you don't ask?
I hope the above makes you less confused and hopefully from this, you can take control of your own life. Take care and all the best for the future.
Kind regards
Sarah B