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What to do with old pictures?

Started by Izumi, July 12, 2010, 02:58:47 PM

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Izumi

Alas i lived too long before i transitioned and have a lot of pictures of the person i pretended to be.  I did meet a lot of people and their are memories, but i dislike that i was in the picture that way.

So the question remains what should i do...? burn them to leave no trace of my past life, keep them for when i want to remember old memories of  places i have been and friends i met?,  A part of me wishes to lose my past, but i like the other people in the pictures and the places.  Cutting myself out would also be difficult.....  I am handy with photoshop but it would take along time to get all the pictures.
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Britney♥Bieber

When I'm further along in my transition I don't plan on getting rid of any old photos. The ones I have are ones I kept because I liked them. I don't like who I am in them but they are pictures of happy times and people I love. Memories that I like to remember. But I can understand you wanting to get rid of them or just keep them private. You gotta do what feels right.

Izumi

Quote from: andthenwekisss on July 12, 2010, 03:03:24 PM
When I'm further along in my transition I don't plan on getting rid of any old photos. The ones I have are ones I kept because I liked them. I don't like who I am in them but they are pictures of happy times and people I love. Memories that I like to remember. But I can understand you wanting to get rid of them or just keep them private. You gotta do what feels right.

I guess if someone asks me i could say these are pictures of my brother, he died a long time ago.  Then make up a neat story about how he died.  "Oh, I am sorry how did he die?", well during the cold war era he was a double agent working in the soviet union, sent many secrets back to washington, until they found him, and shot him after a harrowing car chase in the streets of Moscow.

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Britney♥Bieber

Quote from: Izumi on July 12, 2010, 03:11:58 PM
I guess if someone asks me i could say these are pictures of my brother, he died a long time ago.  Then make up a neat story about how he died.  "Oh, I am sorry how did he die?", well during the cold war era he was a double agent working in the soviet union, sent many secrets back to washington, until they found him, and shot him after a harrowing car chase in the streets of Moscow.

Funny you should say that because I was thinking about saying the same thing but I'd feel so bad telling people my brother died haha Maybe once I know people who don't know I was born male, I'll tell them I had a really long really butch phase.

Binks

I sorted though my old ones keeped the most andro and the ones I liked. And hey I am proud and out about who I am so it doesn't matter to me much whether any one sees them.
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cynthialee

I get a mild thrill when I show my old pictures, but I always show them next to curent pictures to give a full example of my progress in transition. (I have a vain streak, I will admit it.)
I am not going stealth. I have too many friends and family to walk away from. Also I am too old to successfuly go stealth, my paper trail is extensive. So my motivation to obfuscate the past is non existant. So I don't care to get rid of my pictures. Especialy my wedding pics.
So it is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you can win a hundred battles without a single loss.
If you only know yourself, but not your opponent, you may win or may lose.
If you know neither yourself nor your enemy, you will always endanger yourself.
Sun Tsu 'The art of War'
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Bam

I like to be able to compare the journey from U.S.Marine Vietnam vet in dress Blues with all the medals on to U.S.Marine Viet vet in a ball gown at the U.S.Marine Corp ball in an evening gown with the same medals in miniature on it.What a huge difference!!
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Janet_Girl

I go through all my old ones, and remember family and friends part.  These pictures are still part of who I was and part of MY past.
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Debra

Quote from: Izumi on July 12, 2010, 02:58:47 PM
Alas i lived too long before i transitioned and have a lot of pictures of the person i pretended to be.  I did meet a lot of people and their are memories, but i dislike that i was in the picture that way.

So the question remains what should i do...? burn them to leave no trace of my past life, keep them for when i want to remember old memories of  places i have been and friends i met?,  A part of me wishes to lose my past, but i like the other people in the pictures and the places.  Cutting myself out would also be difficult.....  I am handy with photoshop but it would take along time to get all the pictures.

I saved this kind of stuff in keepsake boxes. Maybe someday it'll be interesting to take them out and see them again.

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carolinejeo

Don't have any on display, keep them in a drawer!!

Caroline
Procrastination is your worst enemy.
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LynnER

I've been camera shy most of my life so there are very few pictures, at least in my possession that I can do anything with... I think I have one old drivers license, 2 or 3 from HS excluding the ones in the yearbooks... and really only 4 since reaching adulthood prior to transition, most of those are on the web posted by others who refuse to remove the damn things from the interwebs.
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rejennyrated

I just show them anyway.

I can't change who I was, and in a strange way I feel proud that I made it to where I am now, from there.

Oh and I always use my male name and male pronouns when referring to the old me too. Kind of emphasises that I have indeed changed a lot.
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Sinnyo

Mmm, I would definitely keep them, but boxing them away sounds like the best option. I've always done this anyway, as I've never seen myself in those photographs.

I too realise that those few photos I do have of myself are (and will be) of my past, though I don't have many of these as I'm always behind the lens. Most photos of me are actually dotted around the family home. I can't very well ask my parents to take those down, and it would be strange to have this photographic paper trail which ends all of a sudden in my own photo albums. Instead I guess I've just become numb to these. I've developed an odd mental block around my own masculine self-image, which helps sanitise those memories somewhat - mental Photoshop. ^_^
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My Name Is Ellie

Consider them photos of a close friend, or a relative, that you don't see any more.
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Northern Jane

I purged every picture I could get my hands on when I was about 15 and avoided cameras like a death ray after that, whenever I wasn't in girl mode. Not many pictures escaped  ;D
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Julie Wilson

I have run every photo of me from before and during transition (pre-ffs) through my paper shredder.  This includes my old passport, my original hospital birth certificate (with my little hand and footprints)... and more.
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Hannah

I thought of getting rid of all of my old pictures, but there's a lot of them floating around Facebook so it would be impossible to get rid of them all. It sucks knowing that they're out there, because I would hate to have anyone attribute my old appearance with my new one, but if anything people will be amazed at how much better I will look. For the meantime though, I'm avoiding cameras like the plague.  ;)
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Britney♥Bieber

Quote from: rejennyrated on July 13, 2010, 03:48:01 AM
I just show them anyway.

I can't change who I was, and in a strange way I feel proud that I made it to where I am now, from there.

Oh and I always use my male name and male pronouns when referring to the old me too. Kind of emphasises that I have indeed changed a lot.

Funny you should say this! I was talking to my bestie tonight about when I'm fully female and I meet people who don't know, and if I should tell them. I agree with her that I shouldn't hide it from people I care about. I just said pretty much what you said. I'm proud to be trans. I know that when I'm done transitioning, I'll be so much stronger and I'll be even more proud of myself for what I went through.
Plus I don't HATE how I look now, so I don't want to get rid of all my pictures on facebook or anything haha. There are pictures I would miss too much. Mainly pictures during highschool and with my baby nieces, they moved so I don't see them anymore.

Sarah B

From around the age of 18 I avoided the camera like the plague. I destroyed any pictures of me including pictures taken of me by relatives, if I saw them and they were not looking, I took them from the albums and later destroyed them.  After I changed, I still did not like my picture being taken, however I have mellowed with age and ones taken of me since I changed that are good I keep.

One of my favorite pictures is one of my grandmother and me.  I had it blown up and it now resides in my living room.  May be one day I will have a few more pictures taken.

Kind regards
Sarah B
Be who you want to be.
Sarah's Story
Feb 1989 Living my life as Sarah.
Feb 1989 Legally changed my name.
Mar 1989 Started hormones.
May 1990 Three surgery letters.
Feb 1991 Surgery.
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