help comin out to parents

[vampyric_jen]

Well, for starters. I'm 21, I've been bisexual for years, but have begun to become almost completely sexually attracted only to men, everyone already knows about that except my parents. But only a few people know I'm transsexual and am working on starting HRT right now, seeing as how I still live with my parents right now and am still on their health insurance, its necessary to come out to them about my transsexuality.

I do plan on moving out soon, but I have tons of clothes, I go out as a girl as often as I can (i don't pass well right now because my wigs dont work well with my face shape, and complexion!)

I have no question about who I am, I have been this way since as long as I can remember, and I'm almost 100% positive that if I put it off any longer, that I will end up regretting it heavily.

My dad is more understanding, he used to be catholic but converted to christianity for my mother.
My mom on the other hand is very religious and is christian as well, she found my outfits sometimes and would be disgusted and such, but recently she asked me in the car if I was trying to be a girl or what not, she was questioning it herself, so I've begun to think that she's becoming more eh.. understanding of it I guess, and would be less shocked at this point..

I have plenty of support from all my friends who want me to be happy and are looking forward to me starting hrt! And I go shopping for my clothes with a lot of them =]

I'm just very worried my mom will cry or freak out and such when she finds out and she's been upset a lot lately so it makes me more hesitant, I don't really want to be the cause of her being upset.

Advice???

[lilacwoman]

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My mom on the other hand is very religious and is christian as well, she found my outfits sometimes and would be disgusted and such, but recently she asked me in the car if I was trying to be a girl or what not, she was questioning it herself, so I've begun to think that she's becoming more eh.. understanding of it I guess, and would be less shocked at this point..
I'm just very worried my mom will cry or freak out and such when she finds out and she's been upset a lot lately so it makes me more hesitant, I don't really want to be the cause of her being upset.

Advice???
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yes.  Tell your pernts you need to have a difficult talk to them and tell them you do want to change sex and you need their help. 
If you don't and delay changing until they are gone you will be sixty..

[Samantha_Marie]

Yea I agree you should just tell them. I know it's a scary thought but from someone who's only a few years older then you, I am very upset over the lost years and I'm not even 30 yet.

I am going to go tell my parents this weekend myself. They know I'm coming down and that I have something to tell them.

seems your parents already know as well and are giving you the chance to open up to them about this.

Best of luck to you!

Samantha

[Janet_Girl]

Three references for you to look at.

TELLING YOUR PARENTS

TRANSSEXUALISM: Information for the Family

COMING OUT for TRANSSEXUALS and TRANSVESTITES

[vampyric_jen]

Three references for you to look at.

TELLING YOUR PARENTS

TRANSSEXUALISM: Information for the Family

COMING OUT for TRANSSEXUALS and TRANSVESTITES

thanks for the information..

i plan on telling my dad tonight
Post Merge: July 31, 2010, 07:09:17 PM

thanks for the information..

i plan on telling my dad tonight

Well i just told my dad, he's just like okay. but it was really hard i had to write it down on a card because i couldnt get myself to say it >< but i told him and everything what i want to do. just starting to say it is hard, i can say it after i start


just told my mom too, shes like.. yeah i already knew, but you're not goin through it while you live here.

[lilacwoman]

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that's not the response you wanted to hear.  so now you tell her that you are moving out as soon  as you can and in the meantime fem-up a bit in your dress and makeup and nails every day to let her see you aren't also growing horns and a long barbed tail.

[vampyric_jen]

that's not the response you wanted to hear.  so now you tell her that you are moving out as soon  as you can and in the meantime fem-up a bit in your dress and makeup and nails every day to let her see you aren't also growing horns and a long barbed tail.

yeah i know its not, and i already planned on movin out as soon as i can. my dad will help me im sure, ill talk to him more about it later.. but my mom its because shes so christian, she thinks its a sin and all that ->-bleeped-<-