i'm with a girl who was bisexual for a while, then started identifying solely as a lesbian. she met me as a guy, fell in love with me, never knowing i'm not 100% guy. she still had "lesbian" up on her myspace profile. i addressed that, asked her what "lesbian" means to her and how one could be a lesbian but be in a relationship with a guy. now obviously the term "bisexual" has bad/unwanted connotations in the lesbian scene, so she did not like that label. i explained that i didn't want the label "lesbian relationship" for us and she understood. understood deeply after i came out to her. now she no longer identifies as a lesbian, because she's been with a guy for a year and a half now (that'd be me) and she accepted it as fair proof that she IS attracted to guys as well, or to one guy in particular.
she'll have to decide what's important to her...to tag a label on her sexual identity.......or to respect that your gender is male and that being with you means being with a guy.
i know it's not that simple, but i used to think i'm only into dark-haired girls. now i'm with a blond girl. now would i run around telling people i'm only into dark-haired girls, or would i rather adjust my idea of what i like and what i dont like in a partner?
