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Tonight I come out to my parents and little sister....

Started by Samantha_Marie, August 01, 2010, 10:29:28 AM

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spacial

If you do decide to take the names, Gabrielle Nicole, it will be a great compliment to a wonderful mother who obviously cares for you so much, as all good mothers do.
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cynthialee

I had already taken a name when my mother found out I was trans. She wnated to name me herself. I would have taken any name she gave me but I already was Cynthia. She was somewhat bummed out she didnt get to name me.
I think Gabrielle Nicole is a pretty name and it would be honering your suportive mom to accept the name.
So it is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you can win a hundred battles without a single loss.
If you only know yourself, but not your opponent, you may win or may lose.
If you know neither yourself nor your enemy, you will always endanger yourself.
Sun Tsu 'The art of War'
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Samantha_Marie

Quote from: lilacwoman on August 03, 2010, 04:10:50 AM
So transition today!   :o

A MtF in my group was a bridesmaid for her sister...saad she had a lovely day.  And she'd only been transitioned a few months too.

I want to SO badly...

My girlfriend and I still need to tell her sister who lives with us, as well as her parents. Then I don't want to just spring this on all of my co-workers, while my company has very strict rules in regards to this, I live in a state that has less then 2 million people, and it's a conservative state.

I want to make sure that those who are bit more close minded have at least a chance to absorb the shock before they see me dressed natural. I am also trying to get a promotion to the food court lead, where I'll be allowed to wear a hat and apron all day with a hairnet so transitioning will be much easier, but I don't want to out myself before I find out because I don't want to get the position because I'm trans. I want to get it because I truly earn it.

If I get the new promotion I'll transition that week. If not then I'll wait til the day after halloween to.

That'll be right around 3 months of HRT as well and fits nicely into my projected plan to have the operation in just under 18 months now.

Oh, and I am going to go with Gabrielle Nicole! I absolutely love it!

pamshaw

Years from now you will be glad you came out early because GID will not go away. I regret waiting so long; you did the right thing.

Pam
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Samantha_Marie

Just a quick update;

I came out to my older sister today and she was AMAZINGLY supportive. She didn't even blink when I told her and just said as long as it's what I want and I'm happy then great!

Just thought I'd share that!

Gabby

ps. My nipples have DEFINITELY grown, not a lot mind you but they are without a doubt bigger then they were!! YAY!

justmeinoz

I love hearing good news, Congratulations to you and your family. :)
"Don't ask me, it was on fire when I lay down on it"
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lilacwoman

Quote from: Gabrielle_Nicole on August 03, 2010, 11:42:30 AM
but I don't want to out myself before I find out because I don't want to get the position because I'm trans. I want to get it because I truly earn it.
If I get the new promotion I'll transition that week. If not then I'll wait til the day after halloween to.
word of caution:   some people who have chosen to get a job then transition immediately have found themselves in deep water by not being what it said on their packet.  It works both ways but you need to determine the likely acceptance of your job-transition plans and maybe recast them as transition-job.
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Samantha_Marie

Quote from: lilacwoman on August 06, 2010, 10:21:49 AM
word of caution:   some people who have chosen to get a job then transition immediately have found themselves in deep water by not being what it said on their packet.  It works both ways but you need to determine the likely acceptance of your job-transition plans and maybe recast them as transition-job.

No worries with this at my job, already called corporate and they said I could do it either way I wanted. And I am going to try to not transition immediately. While I want to do it today, I am planning to go full time nov 12. Seeing as how this is being reborn into our right selves, I figured my birthday was the perfect time! It will also allow the hormones to be in full effect and make things a little bit easier on those I work with.

My girlfriend is also not quiet ready for me to, she is very supportive but she is still grieving for the loss of us. I did mention buying some make-up and she asked if I needed it now. I want to so badly, but seeing as how she's going to stand by me, is going to go shopping this weekend for some clothes. I figure I can give her a month at the very least to start wearing it around the house.

I just don't want to make this any harder on them then it will be, especially with everyone being so understanding, not fair if I'm not understanding for their plight in this as well!

Gabby

JessicaR

Gabby,

   That you're being so considerate of those around you is very admirable... I felt the same way after coming out and I sincerely hope that you can hold on to that as you move forward......  But.....

   Don't spend an unnecessary amount of energy on worrying about what's going on in other people's heads. Transition is HARD, especially when you start changing your appearance. You're going to need that energy for YOU. It's been said before that starting the RLT is like coming out all over again... It's one thing for you to tell people you're Trans but quite another when they actually see it. Some people are just going to be overwhelmingly uncomfortable with it.  As you move forward, you're going to notice that, no matter how much you try to keep everyone happy, some are going to go along for the ride and some will stay behind. Those that are shaky about your transition now probably won't stick around when you start to change. It's difficult, but you have to move on and never look back.... Gabrielle is a MUCH stronger person than "he" ever was and she'll get through it.  :)


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Colleen Ireland

Quote from: pamshaw on August 03, 2010, 11:50:32 AM
Years from now you will be glad you came out early because GID will not go away. I regret waiting so long; you did the right thing.

Pam

Ditto - what she said.  Gabrielle Nicole, I'm SO happy for you!  Wow, your story, in all your threads, is so uplifting and heartwarming.  Thank you for sharing!

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