When did you start to insist on male/female pronouns?

[Silver]

I started to ask nicely for male pronouns right after I came out and then started to somewhat insist after a couple of visits with a gender therapist.

This. Then again, when I came out, my presentation was pretty much the same as it is now. Short hair, male clothes, etc. Perhaps the therapist can help you if he/she is trans-friendly?

[LordKAT]

I never asked or insisted. Some others do it for me and I thank the ones who do try and dump those who refuse to acknowledge me. Most times it works ok and some are more reprimanded , so to speak, from their peers since the people look at them funny for using the wrong pronouns and not me.

[Jam]

some are more reprimanded , so to speak, from their peers since the people look at them funny for using the wrong pronouns and not me.

I was thinking of this , i have a pretty good idea a certain person will continue to call me 'she' and my female name. Still there the ones that will look daft in the end.

Hopefully people will just click on, i feel uncomfortable at the thought of having to have that conversation

[elvistears]

I asked people, but expected to get called Eli and she. I was "nice" about it.  After about 6 months, I got frustrated that my flatmate was still calling me she way more often that he.  Felt like he wasn't really trying - I know it takes a big effort to change pronouns, but I wanted people to really try.  I had a talk with him about it and he snapped at me and said it was really hard, but since that he calls me he nearly all the time. I think sometimes people need to be reminded to see how important it is to you.

Also, started calling him missy while we were at car shows lol.

[JessicaR]

I think there's a difference between the occasional slip (still a problem with my Mom even after over two years of being out) and someone who is deliberately using the wrong pronouns to make their own little protest about your transition.

I started asking folks to call me "her" when I started presenting full time to them.. Family and friends were first and then at work when I changed my name. Now, if someone slips, I politely ask if there's a reason they just referred to me as "he" or "him." I found that asking for a reason makes them think a bit more about it than just correcting them. It also gives me an idea if they're doing it to be difficult. If that's the case, I squash them like the bug that they are.... 
Ok, really...  If it's family or a friend, I explain how hurtful it is. If it's at work, I don't hesitate going to HR and asking them to correct the situation. I remind them, at work, that using the wrong pronouns in public could out me and put my life in danger.

[Yagami]

I was 14, fairly young, and I'm glad that it happened that way. I really was able to go through finding out how people can use that to be mean pretty early on. I was able to learn how to compose myself in that situation during my teenage years. I remember in high school, people who I thought would try to be cool about it because they were my friends actually got mad at me for wanting that. I think my guy friends thought I just wanted to 'fit in' with them or something. That was long ago, though.

[Vanessa_yhvh]

My answer to this question needs a bit of an update. heh

Over the last few days, a transwoman on the internet referred to me as "he" with the express intention of ridiculing me, a few other minor affronts took place, and my sister settled on "it" in a conversation with my mom (who hung up on her, bless her mommy soul).

So at this point, people who don't give it a reasonable effort are on my sh** list. I've put this into practice with 4 people in the last 36 hours or so.

We each have our pivot points, I guess.

[Steph]

I never insisted, rather when I started full time living it seemed to naturally occur.  Maybe I was lucky.  There were a couple of folks at work who I politely corrected but other than than that I had no issues.  One should expect folks to use the correct pronouns when one is full time, and if it doesn't happen maybe one should look at their presentation etc.

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[Between Names]

I'm about to start classes at university, and I've decided that now is the time for me to be myself.  I'm going to insist on being called a male name (haven't decided on one yet) and male pronouns.  It's kind of exciting.    The only problem is I need to come out to my two younger siblings.  They're the only ones in my immediate family that don't know anything about my transition yet.