ooh O_o

[jonjon]

So like... at work i've ONLY told my boss who is the shop's top manager. I have trust in him not to say anything to any of the other staff. He does his job proffessionally and i know i can trust him with confidential information. So i know for definate he hasn't said anything to anyone else.

But the other day at work i mentioned i was just goingt o the toilet and what stunned me was the fact that my second in line boss, the shops assistant manager said: "Can you pee standing up yet?" 

I honestly didn't know what to answer to that. Matt (assistant manager) is always telling me i'm like a bloke anyway, so he does tend to crack up a few jokes every now and then about my lack of female atributes. But that just outright shocked me.

[Tiffany Elise]

Wishy;
  It really is hard to know now of days who you can trust.
  Maybe it was just a coincidence.
  About a year ago when I first came to the knowledge of what a transgender is I confided in a co-worker in a management position.
  To my surprise shortly afterwards another manger's picture appeared on the site. (it was a different site) He posted with some wording that showed me he definately knew a co-worker was on that site.
  To this day I don't know if he was trying to out me or just see if there was another on that site he could confide in. The fact that he posted his picture tended to tell me he didn't know who cared and may have been trying to out me.
  I may have handled it wrong but I said nothing and quit posting on that site.
  I wish you well. Maybe it's just a coincidence; but if you don't want anyone to know, be careful what you say around him.
  Best wishes;
  Tiff

[jonjon]

Kiera, considering that i have known Matt for almost 2yrs now, i'm putting my bets on the 2nd option lol I dont think matt dislikes me... if he did, i'd probably know about it in a split second. He's quite the character himself and work wouldn't feel the same without him being there taking the pee out of everyone around him, thats just the way he is and it's best if you can get on with his comments.

He has said much before about the kind of person i am. We joke a lot about who's got the biggest trouser snake  and such kind of things... just when he said that... it was knda like he'd took it one step closer and it's almost like this boundry between knowing and not knowing is quickly fading into nothing but common banter. Which makes it a hell of a lot easier for when i do tell them. The only reason i've delayed it this long already is because we have some christmas temps working and there is no way for me to inform perminant staff without the temps finding out, so i'm waiting until they've all gone.

[Ricki]

Wishy you have me paranoid cause I'll relay an incident that happened to me at work in the spring time earlier this year...
I'm a manager we have 65 employees (big dept) i directly oversee half of them in my areas (retail-catering-production-service-purchasing) the chef we have is in his mid 50's got all kinds of issues manic depressive and stuff I've been at work place with hospital 4 1/2 years.  Never got friendly with anyone except one of my wupervisors when newer.. first year we bonded i took a chance and told her about me she seemed to comprehend what i was saying but did not seem to understand it fully... She never really brought it up and time went on and we had a "friend" falling out last year she had issues with seperating us as friends while at work (God kows i tried to eplain that very thin line to her when we were running around and stuff-we hada  friend relationship nothing physical she was married)
anyway.. These years later i do not trust her but wanted to think she would not be stupid enough to ever tell of my personal life..
the Chef and most others i am on a work to know basis i live an hour away do not socialize with any of them so we know really very little about each other..
One day (back in spring of this year) i went into the freezer to find something for one of the cooks the chef came in and in some sort of way to just make conversation out of the blue he says "There was this really interesting show on last night this guy wanted to be a girl and the whole show was about him transitioning to a girl did you see it"
I was obviously caught off-guard but responded quickly that i do not watch much tv and that reality stuff is not real half the time.. and i left the freezer..
For weeks it bugged me?
Did she say something to him did someone else?  Had he heard something from somewhere else???
I was nuts about it?  Everyone around me here said i was being paranoid?  my mom said told you so you should keep your mouth shut (in which this does not help my ego or inner side)  I kept saying me and him knew each other from adam i knew nothing really about him and he had no real info about who i really was why would he just bring that up especially in the freezer when not around anyone else?  (he's sort of out there anyway) but did he think I'd respond and say oh ya that show really hit home i am a transsexual....
I still to this day do not trust him and did not trust the day that happened and my gut instincts were telling me he was fishing or knew more than he pretended to........He has never since then mentioned anything remotely tied into gay or gender lifestyles to me....He does not even joke aorund about it in fornt of me like he probably does with the males around him...
The reality is i am their boss number 1, and secondly the health system is very aggressive about peoples rights and expressions and lifetsyles, one insulting remark would have someone terminated , it is a no tolerance policy..
But your story has me thinking and for this guy to say that, is he a jokster?  did he mean it joking i dunno what does your gut instincts tell you?
I found out the hard way some people can be trusted and some who seem to be "honest and diligant" ended up not being trustworthy!
Let me know what your gut instincts are on this wishy..
Also please let me know what your feelings are on my story?  am i being paranoid or was he fishing for something someone told him?
etxra safe hugs
Ricki

[jonjon]

You say this happened early this year and nothing has been brought up since, so Ricki, i wouldn't worry about it ^_^ Maybe he knew something from wanering information, or he was just making conversation. You can never really tell. But the fact that it's only remained one small comment and nothing more, i wouldn't worry ^_^

My gut instincts about Matt tell me he was just being more of an insult than normal. He does tend to get more touchy when trying to quit smoking so maybe that was his reason. Nothing more than coincidence because i really do trust my boss 100% not to say anything to other staff. Because he knows if he does he'll get a very bad tempered me making him know about it. But it will all be so much better after christmas when i can finally tell them all and get it out in the open to them.

[Ricki]

thanks wishy... Yep nothing else but knowing this guy (my workplace) he'd not go farther cause i am his boss...
But your end, keep a wide eye and just be careful, joking is one thing but really how ignorant to people have to freakin be
Next time you gotta pee do it on his leg!
hugs
Ricki