Hmmm...

[symempathy]

Hm.  With your friend in chemistry, that's hard.  I was given some good advice earlier in this very thread, I believe...look for a friend first.  Also, the harder you look for someone, the more frustrated and less successful you'll probably be.  Just go with the flow.  May I ask how old you are?

Thank you, Jaimey. I'll try to go with the flow.
In the next 3 months, I will be 26 years old. I'm really frustrated. I don't intend to catch up with other American people, but I want a boyfriend badly. 

I would have to go through a gender therapist...the ftms, of course, have a lot more knowledge on this subject, but I believe on the recommendation of gender therapists, one can have their breasts removed...it's a form of SRS, in a way.

Do you have to go through hormone replacement therapy before you can have surgery? Once your breasts are removed, it's irreversible, isn't it? Is there a real life test that you have to pass?

Haha!  I have to tell you, swearing feels pretty good sometimes.  You should try it out.    Of course, time and place are everything.  Live and let live, indeed!

I'll see if I can swear a little more. When I studied English in my home country, I was taught British English. Coming to the US, my English shifted to American style, but it's still academic English. I don't know slangs and only speak "clean" English. I guess that's why I don't make a lot of friends.

[Jaimey]

I've been told many times that as long as you look for a partner, you'll never find one.  It's frustrating, but if you can find a way to be happy with yourself, other people will see that and be attracted to you.  Happiness is always attractive. 

I don't know about the hormones...FTMs would know, though.  You might check out their board.  I'm sure there are lots of threads about it.  Breast removal is kind of permanent...I suppose you could get implants if you really wanted to later on and vice versa. 

Don't worry about slang.    As long as you are confident in yourself, you'll make friends.  The hardest part is not being self conscious. 

[Kinkly]

symempathy, as to wanting a boy friend good luck when I was your age all I wanted was a girl friend I now know that there is more then just boys and girls and their is a lot of strange ideas as to what the difference between friends of opposite sex and boy/girl friend is I still don't have a girl friend but I do have a few friends who are girls I'm also open to the idea of haveing a romantic partner who is gender diverse preferably female boddied but I've found some T guys attractive I hope you have better luck then I did at finding someone to love (I'm 33 and still searching)

[symempathy]

symempathy, as to wanting a boy friend good luck when I was your age all I wanted was a girl friend I now know that there is more then just boys and girls and their is a lot of strange ideas as to what the difference between friends of opposite sex and boy/girl friend is I still don't have a girl friend but I do have a few friends who are girls I'm also open to the idea of haveing a romantic partner who is gender diverse preferably female boddied but I've found some T guys attractive I hope you have better luck then I did at finding someone to love (I'm 33 and still searching)

Hello Kinkly,
Thank you for your blessing. I'm trying to do what Jaimey says: not thinking about boyfriend and just following heavenly will or my destiny.

What frustrates me is that I cannot tell the person I like how I feel about him. I have never dated anyone in my life. I believe that love will come to me when I'm destined to have it. I did not expect to meet the Mexican guy in my chemistry class. I also did not expect to sit next to him in the chemistry laboratory. The more I talked to him and helped him with the lessons, the more my feelings for him developed. If he was a typical hyper macho American-born man, I would not pay attention to him. However, he was different. He was masculine but not an extreme type. His personality was soft like mine, and that attracted me.

It is said that love takes risks. Unfortunately, circumstances did not allow me to take risks to tell him about my feelings. He was overwhelmed with work. Besides me, he did not turn to anyone for help in chemistry. If I hadn't helped him, he could have done very badly in class.

Therefore, I couldn't tell him that I liked him very much. I didn't want to add more burden in his head. I had to let my conscience take charge and let my heart stay still. I am sad about my love life, but I believe I did the right thing.

Sorry for digressing this topic, which is supposed to be about Jaimey, with my personal issue.

Kinkly, I'm sorry that you are not single by choice. I'm 26, and I feel lonely, so I can understand how it is for you with your age. You are not old, but it is indeed frustrating at that age. I hope you can find the love of your life soon.

[Pica Pica]

I'm still in the market - just adding my name to the pile.

[Jaimey]

I'm still in the market - just adding my name to the pile.

You're adorable, Pica. 

[Pica Pica]

You're adorable, Pica. 

Trust try and convince the lads, lasses, losers and locals of London that.

[Simone Louise]

Trust try and convince the lads, lasses, losers and locals of London that.

My first thought was that I know a young woman studying in your country for a year, who was a brownie and scout in my wife's troop. She announced upon entering our house the first time that she was a tomboy. She is also a writer.

My next thought was an ad, no, an op-ed in one of the local papers (maybe not the Times) touting your virtues as one of London's most eligible bachelor/bachelorettes.

Were I you, I would stop chasing the losers. A talented misfit, definitely. You need someone you will respect, who will respect you.

You are a sweetheart and a keeper.

S

[Pica Pica]

Losers was just there to build the alliteration count, indeed, there may even be someone.

We've been on about 90 dates, but because we are both rather shy about talking our feelings, we've yet to kiss. It's a very slow process if neither of us take charge.

There's also someone else, but she's a lesbian.

[Simone Louise]

I used to go out to lunch weekly with the lesbian who headed our town's library. She married another woman, moved away, and I lost contact with her.

I lift my jigger of grappa (I'm fighting a slight cold) and drink to your health, the success of your novel, and the love of your life.

S

[Jaimey]

I lift my jigger of grappa (I'm fighting a slight cold) and drink to your health, the success of your novel, and the love of your life.

S

Here, here!  That is definitely something to toast to!