Question for people who are androgynous/gender queer/gender fluid

[CloudNine]

Hi

This question applies to pretty much everyone who falls in-between or outside of the typical gender binaries (or anyone who knows about it).
I fall in-between. It sways back and forth, and sometimes I feel female, sometimes male, sometimes male and female at the same time, etc. I'm biologically female.
One question is, do I sound gender queer, gender fluid, or androgynous?
Another question is is it ok if I identify as my biological sex [not really, it is ok like I'm asking permission, but do I still count as being gender fluid/gender queer or whatever]? Even though it doesn't feel completely right, it's just easier then explaining it to people.

Thanks!

[Vanessa_yhvh]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with identifying with/as your birth gender, whether it be occasionally, always, or only in certain ways.

Even though I'm MTF transitioning, I feel quite comfortable wearing labels like genderqueer when it makes sense in a given context.

More important than any choice of labels (which can change as you live your life) is to express yourself as comfortably as you dare.

[Flan]

I can't tell you who you are, but that sounds like gender fluid it me, maybe bi/trigender if it's situation based.

[Pica Pica]

Hello.

Welcome to the site. The first thing is first. You are welcome whatever you think you are and are cordially invited to participate in as much or as little of the board as you see fit. Of particular interest to you would be the androgyne sub-board https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/board,57.0.html where people who feel between gender boundaries and such discuss it and a bunch of other stuff - though this should in no way prohibit you from reading the rest of the board also.

We recently had a question about the terms and such here - https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,82256.0.html  and I wrote my personal definitions for genderfluid, Bigender and androgynous (which in my use has a different meaning to androgyne) -I've never really worked out the meaning of genderqueer - I think it's the same as androgyne but I've always used it in a more politicised term, but some people didn't agree with that distinction.

So hello an that.

P

[RebeccaFog]

Only you can know your identity. It changes for some of us. You may eventually settle into male, female, both, or neither. And there's a handful of us who present as our birth gender. You're not required to present as anything other than what you are comfortable with. These days I identify as neither or nothing. Neutral?

I just saw this in an article:

Bockting predicts that such binary thinking will eventually disappear. Many scientists, he says, see gender as a continuum and acknowledge that some people naturally fall in the middle. Gender, Bockting says, "develops between the biological and the environmental. You can't always detect gender by physical evidence. You have to ask the person how they identify themselves; in that sense, it's psychological.

It's good to meet you. Don't fear asking questions. This is a very open forum with a large amount of acceptance of varying people.

[cynthialee]

Only you can truely know what you are. I can have an opinion but those are often wrong.
My guess is that the best we can say at this point is that you are questioning.
Welcome aboard and dig into the threads join a conversation or two and let us get too know you then ask this question again if you havent nailed it down after awhile. (although your just going to get the same bassic answers... )

[kyle_lawrence]

Welcome to Susans! 

3 important things you should know. 

1. There are no rules regarding how you are supposed look, feel, act, identify, have as interests.... to infinity. 
2. Your experiences, feelings and comfort level with changing, exploring or blurring your gender identity will be completely different from anyone else here. 
3. If any or all parts of items 1 and 2 ever become actual rules, a thread shall appear to discuss how to have it removed from the rules, and anyone caught enforcing the rule  will be flogged with a pair of panyhose filled with silicone breast forms and packers.

(or you are you, your gender identity is whatever you decide it is, and as long as you don't hurt yourself or others, Live your own life with your own rules.)

Of course you will likely find people who have similar experiences to yours, or identify in the same way, but probably not exactly.

(utilikilts and fruitcakes.)