Ignorant Family

[Marta]

When my aunt came out to our family about her ->-bleeped-<- they were shocked and angry. Being in a sort of religious family didnt help out very much either. In reality I believe its more selfish to want that person to remain male or female because thats how everyone else is used to it. I believe everyone should be happy and my aunt Kim wasnt happy because she wasnt being her true self. My aunt Kim has always been my favorite aunt she's always been there for me. When I was younger I was very much criticized for my style of dress, taste in music, etc. And my aunt Kim did nothing but defend me from that criticism because she understood me and understood that everyone is different. It all made more sense to me when she came out. Now none of the family talks to her but me and it saddens me because she feels unloved and alone, but i told her she'll always have me. Its frustrating trying to get people to understand when they just dont want to understand. No matter what I try and tell my family they wont accept it, they just turn away. I hope that things change for the better, that my family will change and just try and accept her. To me it wouldnt be fair for her to change back to Tim just so her family will accept her. Im so angry with my family and wish i could help her out more. She's a kind person and doesnt deserve the rejection that shes facing. Ive been staying with her for the past few weeks since she came out and i might move in with her just cuz i dont want her to feel alone.  I hope things will change for the best for her

[Karla]

That's so sweet and she's lucky to have you in her life.
She's also probably in a vulnerable place right now so it's important for her to feel that she has a friend, someone who accepts unconditionally.
Someone to depend on but not be dependent on.

Forgive me if I'm overstepping but I guess what I'm trying to say is your relationship with your aunt is starting to take shape and it's up to the both of you to actively develop it to be healthy and strong.

In reality I believe its more selfish to want that person to remain male or female because thats how everyone else is used to it.

If just more people would have a little more of your common sense.
Maybe if everyone saw how everyone else sees things then we'd have less conflict.

[Chantal185]

Its good to know that you support her, but it is so sad to hear how your family has basically disowned her and are so ignorant that they won't even take the time to try to understand. We need as much support from our families as we can get since the life of a ts can be very hard and transition is not something a person does for fun. It is very difficult to switch genders.