I hate to say this, but theres no other way.

[ggina]

If you had to lie for so long, then just not telling the truth for a little while won't hurt anyone

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[Just Kate]

I, personally, couldn't deal with it.  It is one of the primary things that drove me to permanently out myself that eventually led to my detransition.  I couldn't stand the idea of not being completely honest, and when I was, it dramatically reduced the probability of finding the kind of guy I was attracted to.  It was easy to get guys anyhow - but not a guy who would share my standards for myself, for how I chose to live my life, and the kinds of things I would and would not be involved in - that was damned near impossible.

[JennX]

I'm early transition, and pretty sure I'm completely gay, but if I were dating guys, the main issue would be safety.  If they're a particularly homophobic/transphobic psychopath, they might feel justified in beating you to death to "redeem their manhood," and be too crazy to even care if they get caught for it.  It happens occasionally.  The secondary issue would be that I wouldn't want to be with someone who couldn't accept me for who I am.  The third issue would be that even if their feelings are wrong, and based on ignorance, I do understand that everyone has flaws, and I'd rather not make anyone uncomfortable.  (The first issue isn't a big issue among lesbians, but the second and third still are.)

On the other side of the coin...

Maybe you might find a nice guy who likes and accepts you for who you are? It can happen. Trust me.