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[Dragon Friend]

Hi I'm new here. I've been with my gf for 3 years now. She is pre everything MtF. I love her dearly, but it is hitting a point I just need a place to talk a little. She is just frustrated by lack of progress due to lack of cash and I don't want to add anymore stress to her. I wish I had a way to comfort her better, but there is not much I can think to do for her. One thing I can do is be there and not get upset myself, but it is hard with her hurting so. She sees a therapist and I think that helps sometimes, but here lately it just seems like she is feeling worse about herself. She started talking about self-medicating, but I think I've talked her into waiting and actually seeing a dr. I don't know if the next person that 'sirs' her is going to live. I know life has good days and bad and just trying to live through the bad at the moment. Thanks for listening.

[Janet_Girl]

Hi Dragon Friend,

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You are actually doing your best by simple loving her.  Take in your arms and just hold her tight.

Hugs and Love,
Janet

[kisschittybangbang]

HI! Welcome! We've all been there honey! Just breathe and take relief knowing we'll help support you! If you need anything we're here.

[Dragon Friend]

Thanks. J has also joined the forums so that will give her a chance to vent. She is also seeing about getting her name changed to something more gender nutral than her birth name. We will see what tomorrow brings.

[K8]

Welcome, Dragon Friend.  Becoming oneself is a difficult process, especially if you are transgendered.  Sometimes I think it is at least as hard on those who love us.  Check out the Significant Others section - I'm sure there are many others who are facing similar problems as you are and perhaps they have some ideas.

Good luck to both of you.  Things are easier if we each have someone we can rely on.

- Kate

[spacial]

Dragon Friend.

What you describe sounds really difficult for you both.

What I can say is, this is the right place.

Big hugs to you both.

[Octavianus]

Hi Dragon Friend,

It is not possible for me to give you detailed advice since I just plunged in myself. I am sure there are plenty people here willing to help you both.
If there is one thing I can say to you it is that you do a lot for her by just being there for her.

[eleemosynarify]

Hey there, I'm new here too. My partner is pre-everything FtM. He's only come out to me and 2 or 3 of his closest friends, so we have to keep the masculine pronouns under wraps unless we're in private. It's hard for him sometimes, especially since his parents are very insistent that he act feminine and wear dresses, even though they know he's "a lesbian."

Luckily, he just moved to college and secretly bought some men's clothing and Ace bandages. We'll see how it goes... 

[Colleen Ireland]

Hey, Dragon Friend... I just wish my wife were like you.  I'm pretty much at the same stage as your girlfriend, and she still won't even talk about it, let alone refer to me as anything but "husband".  I'm keeping things low-key for now, as she goes through her grieving process, but it is hard.  I just wanted to let you know how special you are.