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[Robert Scott]

Hello Everyone --

I am new to this site.  I am 39 year old transman.  I am just starting the process ... infact I just told my wife the other day.  I have always been a "tomboy" and was saying I was genderqueer for the last couple months but finally am ready to accept myself for who I am a transman.  I have been on some other sites ... but this one seems far more active.  I have done binding & had a consultation for my chest reconstruction surgery.  I am confident that i can start T anytime I want b/c my wife works with the main doctor in the area who prescribes T. 

There is a ton of topics to read about -- a bit overwhelming...but I might read through some.

[mtfbuckeye]

Welcome, Rob! I'm going the opposite direction, but we share one thing: We are both married. How supportive is your wife, if I may ask?

[Janet_Girl]

Hi Rob,

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[Robert Scott]

My wife has been amazingly supportive.  I have been saying I am gender queer since mid December & I started binding then.  She has helped me put binders on and measured me to figure out what size.  A couple days ago when I said I was trans to her and myself ... she responded with ... duh, you must be the last to know.  Not exactly the response I expected but it is still nice to have it confirmed that she is okay with me transitioning.  She has told me that she is pansexual so ... I wasn't too worried she would reject me.

Her only concern is that she identifies as a lesbian and she doesn't want to loose that identity.

[ilanthefirst]

when I said I was trans to her and myself ... she responded with ... duh, you must be the last to know.  Not exactly the response I expected but it is still nice to have it confirmed that she is okay with me transitioning. 

That's just like what my mom said to me!  My partner's also cool with me being on the transmasculine side of the spectrum, but he's uncomfortable with the idea of not being straight, so we also need to work on that.  Even though I understand that for him, the plumbing is an important part of attraction, the naming is based on gender, so it can be tricky.  Anyway, nice to meet you, Rob!

[Lacey Lynne]

Hey, Rob!

Glad to have you on board here, man.  We think you'll really like it here, so give it a chance and see for yourself.  We're about accurate information, good manners and genuine acceptance.  If that sounds like a winning combo to you, then settle in and enjoy.

That is so excellent that your spouse is cool with you.  Rock on!  Our best to you.  Don't be a stranger. 

   Lacey