Is it wrong to keep it to yourself (Not telling)

[Kris]

She's right. You're very cute on your avatar so don't worry...

Thank you very much ha thats really awesome

[Kris]

Yeah and another thing, I'm assuming you're talking to a girl and you tell her your trans and she says she's not gay, you don't need to involve yourself with people who see you as a woman. You are a man and it is sad that people don't respect that. I don't think people really understand how big a deal gender is to some.

Yeah your right, I guess its just crazy to think that people don't see me how I see myself. Its hard sometimes too you know? I've had one girl ONE that actually accepted me, for me. Now its kinda like idk giving up hope that someday I can be seen by the rest of the world.
Hah but no need to drop my problems like that. Thanks for your help

[Britney♥Bieber]

Yeah your right, I guess its just crazy to think that people don't see me how I see myself. Its hard sometimes too you know? I've had one girl ONE that actually accepted me, for me. Now its kinda like idk giving up hope that someday I can be seen by the rest of the world.
Hah but no need to drop my problems like that. Thanks for your help

I'm glad I helped. But just know you're not alone. Every trans person has trouble dating. Well some are lucky, but we all struggle with not being respected for what we feel. Even when I'm post op, some guys will still see me as male. Just gotta be careful.

[Crypt77]

Hahaha ironically, I am kinda going through the same ordeal man. But I agree with everyone here. If you're not going to get down and jiggy with it, you don't have to say ->-bleeped-<- at all. Haha!

[Lewis]

If I wasn't transgendered I wouldn't want to discuss my genitals with random people either.  The only people who would need to know would be people I'm about to have sex with.

[LoganTyler]

Yeah dude I would just avoid bringing it up unless i mean... of course like the others said... your about to have to pull the pants down haha, then might be a good time to be like... oh...by the way..... trust me im sick of hearing the "but im straight" ->-bleeped-<- over and over... im always like uhmmmm..thats ok.. im a straight....ish...dude? hope it all goes well from now on!

-logan

[Cindy]

Hi Kris,
Another girl comment. If I was only 30 years younger you could rock my socks any time

On your comment though. I cannot see any reason to walk around life with a placard saying guess what I'm TG, or some other expression. We are normal human beings. So we should act as one. OK if a relationship develops, I personally think we have to 'have the conversation', this is probably far more dangerous for MtF as we risk brutality. In Ftm its more likely to be tears and a scene if she doesn't accept you. But women seem to be more tolerant than men. Men seem to think dating a woman and then finding out she is TG is an attack on their sexuality. But I've never understood men.

So enjoy. Be open and friendly. Give sparkle to life. And if you ever want to date a Granny my number is

Hugs
Cindy

[Kentrie]

When I'm talking to people I feel like I should tell them in case some idiot comes up to me and calls me "she" and the other person is like "what?" but I don't really want to tell them anything. As soon as they find out I'm biologically female they call me "she" and that annoys me. I'm just afraid of someone outing me and freaking the other person out.

[zombiesarepeaceful]

Point blank....no. It's not wrong. I don't consider myself to have been born anything but a cismale, and if that's wrong to them...well...screw them. If it were to get intimate I'd have to tell them but unless it does, no.

[Kris]

I'm glad I helped. But just know you're not alone. Every trans person has trouble dating. Well some are lucky, but we all struggle with not being respected for what we feel. Even when I'm post op, some guys will still see me as male. Just gotta be careful.

Its been awhile since I posted on here but I actually just came on to check stuff out and I actually wanted to thank you a lot. A lot of what you said made me think and I'm actually in a great relationship now, Your awesome. Thanks again.

[Kris]

Hi Kris,
Another girl comment. If I was only 30 years younger you could rock my socks any time

On your comment though. I cannot see any reason to walk around life with a placard saying guess what I'm TG, or some other expression. We are normal human beings. So we should act as one. OK if a relationship develops, I personally think we have to 'have the conversation', this is probably far more dangerous for MtF as we risk brutality. In Ftm its more likely to be tears and a scene if she doesn't accept you. But women seem to be more tolerant than men. Men seem to think dating a woman and then finding out she is TG is an attack on their sexuality. But I've never understood men.

So enjoy. Be open and friendly. Give sparkle to life. And if you ever want to date a Granny my number is

Hugs
Cindy

lol, thats awesome! lol
Thanks a lot. I know this was posted awhile ago, and I just actually read it, but really..I have been enjoying life now. Thanks to the uplifting comments likes yours...

[Kris]

When I'm talking to people I feel like I should tell them in case some idiot comes up to me and calls me "she" and the other person is like "what?" but I don't really want to tell them anything. As soon as they find out I'm biologically female they call me "she" and that annoys me. I'm just afraid of someone outing me and freaking the other person out.

Its been a hella long time since I posted on here but I wanted to let you know, I for sure know what your talking about. I have had  a few random bobbers that could call me out on being a chick. So I have had the fear as well of somebody popping up and spilling the beans.

Like me for, my work is really hella chill with me being Kris and calling me a male but I do have haters that work there. (Some are called my friends) that call me out ALL THE TIME when a new chick (that is cute) would start working there. I would be talking to her/flirting and they would call me out by saying my name i was given at birth really loud. It started being embarrassing because she would get really red and embarrassed herself but thankfully I kinda learned just to make a joke outta it. Like "Gosh I got haters everywhere", then I would turn the dude that split the beans, I would turn his name into a girls name and just call him that everytime she was around. (Such as James...Jamie) and she just laughs then I kind of become the funny guy that can always make her laugh...So I don't know, maybe you should try it you know.