Coming out letter---Update!!

[Jake P]

So, yesterday I typed up about a 4 page letter to my mom, pretty much coming out.  I told her what I was feeling, and what I was dealing with emotionally.  I then wrote it out.  As easy as typing it up is, and sending it through email or something, I wanted it to be a bit more personal than that.  So I wrote it out, and it ended up being about 7 pages long.  I am from New Jersey, but I am at school in Colorado, so I decided to mail it.  I put it in an envelope and stamped it and everything, but could not get myself to put it in the mailbox.  Finally, about a few hours ago, I put it in the mailbox.  Tomorrow it will be heading out.  I am incredibly nervous, but I know that she needs to know.  I don't know what exactly the point of this post is...but I just felt like telling someone that I am in the process of coming out to my mom, and I am nervous, and don't really know what to expect.  So, yeah, thank you for reading this if you did.

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[Lukas-H]

I really hope that she reacts positively and gives you the support you need and deserve

[LeeIam]

I know how hard it was for me to come out to my mum. Your post put a smile on my face, progess is always good news. Congrats for taking the first step. Take a deep breath. Even if she reacts badly at first, you can give her some time. Make sure she knows that you are certain about this. Good luck.

[lilacwoman]

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well you're 20 and living across the country so you have some idea of real life so while it may be a shock to her it may be that she has picked up on things in recent years and can see that you weren't destined to be a homemaking wife to some guy.
If she calls you to speak your first words need to be, I'm sorry to have sent a letter but I had to make sure I spelled everything out.

[Radar]

I hope it all goes well. Coming out is terrifying, but once it's out there it's liberating. You no longer have to hide it or keep it a secret. One thing I also did for my parents was send a book about transsexuals to them as well. It helped them understand some things better and showed I wanted to work with them on educating and helping them. I also included some educational links in the letter that focused on family. Those links really helped my father out who had less knowledge of such things than my mom and sisters.

In my experience the more you show you want to help education them on transsexualism the more excepting they become. Even though we are transitioning they are too in a way. We all need support in some way while transitioning but our family, friends and work need help too. Most people don't know how to completely handle these things physically, mentally and emotionally (including us!). I think the more you show others that you're willing to help and work with them the more accepting they become. Support after coming out isn't just saying it but how you do it too.

[Cameron James]

Congrats, man! I hope your mother takes it well.

[Bagheera]

Congratulations on taking such a big step! I wish you and your family the very best and hope for positive news. =)

[Jake P]

Thank you guys so much.  I really needed that support while waiting til the letter got to her.  So, it got to her yesterday.  I hadn't heard anything from her, so I was a bit nervous, not knowing if she read it or not.  So, I emailed her asking if she did get/read it, and that she could respond with a simple yes or no.  She responded to me this morning and I am so happy!  I admit, I actually cried a bit because I was so relieved and happy.  Her response was not long, but it meant a lot to me.  This is what she said:

"Yes I did get it and wow...can't say I was expecting that!  I also can't say that I'm 100% surprised.  I won't get into to anything now especially since I'm at work but do know that while I may be a little unsure/uneasy about this right now, it in no way changes how I feel about you, I do/will love you just the same."

So yeah, I just wanted to share that as a kinda update about my letter.  Thanks again for all of your support 

[Janet_Girl]

Very cool on the letter, Incertus.  And awesome on the reply.  Sometimes parents can be so cool.

[Lukas-H]

That's excellent! Very happy to hear that your mom took it so well.

[Cameron James]

Wonderful news!

I hope my mother takes it as well as yours did. I'm going to see her tomorrow and last time she saw me I was pretty femme - which is a drastic difference from me now. So it should be exciting. 

[Jake P]

Thanks, guys.  I am so excited that she seems to be taking it so well.

Good luck tomorrow, Aiden.  I hope it goes well