My two penneth worth with this thread pre venturing out for eats....
When I went through the horrible chrysalis stage, relationships and what outcomes would be possible for me were not on my mind....at all....
Just getting to be the gal I knew I naturally was...... was key, and what I stayed myopic on...lol
And pre my change-over I'd only had long-term relationships with women, one girl I had a home with for 8 years.....then some years post-op for me when life, job and all was truly girlie settled...
I simply flipped over to being with men..... well when you're built for the ubiquitous vaginal based couplings......tends to be what you like to get up to, once you've the hang of it.....*s->-bleeped-<-s*
And all the men I've dated have been either previously married or had kids....so I wouldn't personally term them gay?
Not one of them ever doubted my femininity....which was good enough for me....also.
And as you gain confidence..... then the past you could accurately say is truly behind you....
Forget about relationships.....
Here are two key questions for you to think about:
1. Who really are you?
2. And what do you 'really' want?
Anything else is arbitrary....