I go to a lot of gay bars which is probably a mistake but I like many TGs do so because we either haven't transitioned yet or haven't gotten the confidence yet that we pass well enough to play pool with the straight guys at the straight bars. Regardless, I've learned a lot about the transgendered "world" and how much of it is full of bold-faced lies.
Let's get started. We know that TGism comes in a number of forms. Transgender means "crossing traditional gender lines." That includes drag queens, ->-bleeped-<-s, crossdressers, and transsexuals. These gay bars that are allegedly trans-friendly tend to take all of these different types, put them in a blender, and turn it on until it becomes one big soup that nobody can understand. I've learned that a big part of these lies are coming from TG people themselves who are either extremely confused or simply buying into the nonsense they see on popular television.
I'll try not to make this too long but don't bet on it.
I started out crossdressing fully one night with the help of friends. I went out to a gay bar I had previously been at as a "man." I thought it was just something I tried. I thought I was just a crossdresser--someone who generally likes to dress up as a woman and present female from time to time but who is otherwise happy and comfortable living a male life. Well, the TSs started telling me how much I need to start doing this. I need hormones, I need boobs, I need to go full time. Such truths but such lies. It has now been over two years since that day and I've realized how much of these environments are fiction. Let me explain.
A TS woman is a woman not just someone who wants to feel like a woman or who wants to have sex as a woman. Obviously by now I've realized I am not just a crossdresser but this realization came through my own self disovery and by actually rejecting the constant unsolicited advice from other "TSs" to do this and do that. Let's be frank. These same people who call themselves transsexuals have been coming to the same gay bars for years and years and years. They don't want to take hormones regularly because they don't want to lose their libido. They are prostituting and penetrating men. They are making porno videos in the "she male" category. They are doing drag shows every weekend. Yes, they have boob implants and laser hair removal but not a one of them wants to lose their penis. I knew one transwoman who only occasionally dropped into this bar and she finally got her SRS. Now she has never been seen again. This got me thinking. These same girls who are still to this day telling me how I need to get on hormones, get boobs, fix up my hair, put on more makeup, have skimpier dresses, etc. all balk at the mention of SRS. They can't see how I could be serious that I would even contemplate losing my penis.
Let's go back to the one who got SRS and disappeared. It all makes sense now. What do women in general do? Do they go to gay bars every weekend in over-feminine outfits with excessive makeup on and do shows? Do they find prostitution and pornography interesting for their careers? No they don't. What do they do? They get up and go to work in the morning. They pay their bills and pay their taxes. They date and fall in love. They were jeans and a shirt to a gas station and something sexy for a night out on the town. They don't need excessive makeup, ultra-feminine clothes, and extremely large breasts, and men over every night to feel more like a woman. They don't need that because they are women, period. Well a true transwoman is simply a woman and should generally think, act, and be like any other woman in society not including the special challenges and alterations that come with transtition.
So to sum up my point. A lot of people are playing girl out there. That is fine. That is what makes a TV or a CD. There is nothing wrong with this at all. What is wrong is the misinformation and inappropriate labelling that is dangerous and confusing to the TS who is trying to understand herself and where she needs to go. A TS is a woman who defines herself as a woman and not a TS like it is some fashion statement. And honestly, why do I need slut-like clothes and excessive makeup to be a woman? Why would I need big boobs? Last time I checked when I see women running errands during the day or even at straight bars and restaurants at night they are simply wearning normal female clothes with minimal makeup. So to sum up my rant, basically it is more of a warning that there are an awful lot of people out there who identify as TS who are giving other TSs extremely bad advice. Open your eyes and look. There are women and there are those who are playing girl. If you don't see GGs doing it, then you are likely on the wrong track. And I'm sick of these so-called TSs asking me when I'm going to get on stage to perform. Um, I'm not a drag queen and if these girls actually are TSs then why is it for ten years their lives have solely been based around hooking, show performances, and the porn industry? Doesn't sound like normal female behavior to me. Enough said.
