Nervous For School

[Dylan Michael]

Hey guys,
  My first day of school is in a few days, and I'm really nervous. My problem is that all the kids there know me as a girl, but over the summer I cut my hair and start wearing all guy's clothes. I pass as a guy 99% of the time. I'm just worried that my new teachers will see me as male and call me 'he' in front of the class and people will make fun of me for it..   
    Should I just go along with it? Or should i 'correct' them and tell me to call me 'she'?

I really want to be myself, I guess I'm just scared.

   I hope this made sense? If it doesn't then just ask and I'll try to explain? Ahhh!! 

[Liam]

You pretty much have the same problem as me, i'm just starting high school. I would say try your best to explain to the other students about your situation, and definitely tell your counselor about this issue. Just be yourself, it feels so much better to do so.

[Dylan Michael]

Thanks, that helps.. I'm definitely going to tell my counselor. Good luck starting high school

[LeeIam]

I think that it is best to explain it to the other students. (and maybe any teachers that are unsure of you) It's very hard/confusing to try and present as male outside of school and go by "she" at school. The other students are also having their first day of school and probably have their own problems on their minds as well. As long as you don't draw loads of attention to yourself they might just go along with it. If they make fun you can take the chance to empower yourself and you'll feel better about it.

[Cindy]

Hi Alexander,
I replied to Liam so you will both be getting two posts.

One of the major things we have to deal with is how people perceive us. With Liam and yourself you wish to identify as male, fine. BTW as in the other thread have you discussed this with therapists? If not you both should ASAP.

Since you identify as  male why should you correct anyone for using male pronouns? In fact you should be telling your teachers to use only male pronouns when addressing you. If you are unsure that is why you need a therapist to discuss things with. It is a big decision.

As for the class making fun of you, they may or may not. One way of dealing with this is to ask to address the class. Explain what TG is and the road you face. Ask for respect for a difficult time in life. Stand tall, look people in the eye and NEVER be ashamed.

I came out to my parents and family that I was female when I was 13, a long time ago. They could not accept it. I could. I have. The world has changed an awful lot since then. I hope that if I came out now at 13, I would have been given the hormones I so desperately  needed before going through puberty.

Good luck Guys

Cindy

[Dylan Michael]

Cindy, thanks for the help. I talked to my therapist a little bit about it, but I will talk to her some more. I would love to explain everything to my class, but I am super shy.. Like I'm so shy I don't ever raise my hand or talk to anybody. But yeah, you still helped a lot.  Thaaanks 

[Kentrie]

When I go to school people think I'm a butch lesbian and it makes me feel awful and the kids who know I'm trans still refer to me as she which makes me feel relieved because people won't look at me like "What?" and it depresses me because I'm not a girl.