Where you ever in love with your best friend?

[Rosa]

So, there is this guy that I've only known for less than a year, but it is like we have known each other for a lifetime and we are very close.  We started calling each other brother, and we really mean it.  I am considerably older than he is, and he has promised to help take care of me when I get older and we plan to live together, although I know that he hopes to get married and have kids one day.  We are very comfortable with each other and hug, but have no sexual relationship at all.

I find myself attracted to him, some physically, but mostly by how kind he is to me as well of how his personality is.  I feel like I will never find a guy that I could love as much as I love my friend/brother, but I know that even if I transition, he will always view me as his brother and there is no chance that we will every be more than brothers, even if I would have such feelings (I try not to).  I think that I have stronger feelings for him than he does for me, but then I am much more sensitive than he is and he is kind of macho.

I'm wondering if I am kind of playing house since I sometimes cook for him, do his laundry with mine, and we always go places together and he pays.  I'm worried that I will be jealous some day when he gets a girl friend or gets married.  He knows how I feel but tells me that if I care about him and respect him I will be happy for him.  I don't want to be jealous, but it is hard when I think about it because we are so close and I really depend on him.  I'm afraid that soon he will need to move out because of his job, and I don't know how I am going to make it.

Any of you ever been in a similar situation? 

[Izumi]

So, there is this guy that I've only known for less than a year, but it is like we have known each other for a lifetime and we are very close.  We started calling each other brother, and we really mean it.  I am considerably older than he is, and he has promised to help take care of me when I get older and we plan to live together, although I know that he hopes to get married and have kids one day.  We are very comfortable with each other and hug, but have no sexual relationship at all.

I find myself attracted to him, some physically, but mostly by how kind he is to me as well of how his personality is.  I feel like I will never find a guy that I could love as much as I love my friend/brother, but I know that even if I transition, he will always view me as his brother and there is no chance that we will every be more than brothers, even if I would have such feelings (I try not to).  I think that I have stronger feelings for him than he does for me, but then I am much more sensitive than he is and he is kind of macho.

I'm wondering if I am kind of playing house since I sometimes cook for him, do his laundry with mine, and we always go places together and he pays.  I'm worried that I will be jealous some day when he gets a girl friend or gets married.  He knows how I feel but tells me that if I care about him and respect him I will be happy for him.  I don't want to be jealous, but it is hard when I think about it because we are so close and I really depend on him.  I'm afraid that soon he will need to move out because of his job, and I don't know how I am going to make it.

Any of you ever been in a similar situation?

yes i was but really it was more a hormonal thing, he just assumed i temporarily went crazy while on HRT, he was right, looking back i was like... what was i thinking?  Now if your not on HRT then your feelings might be genuine, however it could also be a lot of other things that could stem from simple loneliness to some even from your past coming back to you, like maybe how your parents raised you or something. 

I do have to warn you though on HRT there is a point which i like to call the SLUT phase.  Its when your estrogen and testosterone are pretty balanced in your body and you basically become a pretty horny female....  but it only lasts a while (3 months) and eventually things balance out. 

[Angela]

I wouldnt call it the slut phase though. I called it the undecided phase.

[Rosa]

There have only been a small handful of people with whom I've had the feeling that I'd known them for a lifetime.  I don't know how else to describe it.  I think that I had crushes on a few of them, but this is the strongest feeling that I've had, probably because I live with this guy (in separate bedrooms) plus he is just so nice to me.  I just don't want to have romantic feelings towards him, or be jealous.  I guess I am longing for intimacy, and I feel jealous when I think of him being closer to someone other than me.  I would give the world to be able to be his woman, but I know that will never happen and I should not pretend that it might, even if I sometimes do.

Does E raise or change your libido? 

[Izumi]

There have only been a small handful of people with whom I've had the feeling that I'd known them for a lifetime.  I don't know how else to describe it.  I think that I had crushes on a few of them, but this is the strongest feeling that I've had, probably because I live with this guy (in separate bedrooms) plus he is just so nice to me.  I just don't want to have romantic feelings towards him, or be jealous.  I guess I am longing for intimacy, and I feel jealous when I think of him being closer to someone other than me.  I would give the world to be able to be his woman, but I know that will never happen and I should not pretend that it might, even if I sometimes do.

Does E raise or change your libido?

E + androgen blocker reduces your libido.  Before you something popped into you head it would stay there all day until you did something about it, however, after HRT, something pops into my head, then 5 minutes later i think about shoes, and poof completely gone... ah so refreshing.

[Janet_Girl]

To answer the original question.  Yes I was, and still am to a point.  I even married her and we were together for 19 years.  But this thing called GID came between us.  She could not deal with it and I had to.

[Samantha_Peterson]

Yes...but he's only into natal females sadly Oh well...it was more of a crush though XD We'd be HORRIBLE together with how much we fight now sometimes XD

[Bam]

YES and i married her and am still married to her after 41 years (celibate) but that's ok i just keep the E high and the T low works great,and she has already gone thru the change so it works out great.