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Dealing with peculiarly cis male questions/issues

Started by Arch, June 04, 2010, 12:49:57 PM

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brainiac

I've been punched directly in the clitoris, HARD, and let me just say, the whole "falling down and not being able to move for a bit" is not an exaggeration.

I'm just not going to think about the zipper thing. I've had my junk pinched between my body and the front of a saddle when my horse abruptly stopped from a full-on sitting canter, and if THAT was bad...
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Jam

Quote from: Graham on June 05, 2010, 08:01:50 PM
yeah, that's what I'm wondering.   :laugh: 

or how long to attempt to fake it.

Ever since i was little i always just pretended it hurt like my guy mates. Now its automatic i just grab my crotch and look in pain without thinking.
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kyril

It it weird if I know what it's like to be kicked in the balls? I know you're all going to tell me I can't, just like cis guys tell me I can't, but I do. Other guys talk about phantom penis, and I don't really have that. I have phantom nuts. And they erupt in sympathy pain when I see someone get hit there. That's actually one of my early specifically trans memories: seeing someone get hit there and flinching and instinctively reaching to protect my...nonexistent package. My mother asked what was wrong and I pointed at the kid doubled over in pain and she laughed at me and told me I was lucky I was a girl and I'd never know what that really felt like for him.

I've never been able to desensitize myself to it. I can't watch America's Funniest Home Videos, it's like being repeatedly punched in the gut. And if it ever looks like I'm going to take a hit there...I don't have to fake it, I panic and grab to protect.


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Lachlann

Quote from: Vanessa_yhvh on June 06, 2010, 04:16:42 PMWhat was your first fight like?

How old were you the first time you kicked your brother's a**? That's something guys tend to remember, including something memorable about how it went down.

What is some memorable men's room wall stuff you've read? Growing up male means you've seen a lot, and some of it has been EPIC.

Boxers? Briefs? Tidy whities? Don't admit to anything girly or strange unless you have a good story behind it.

Oh, and when/how did you discover masturbation?

These I can all answer.  :laugh:
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insanitylives

Quote from: kyril on June 06, 2010, 04:30:47 PM
It it weird if I know what it's like to be kicked in the balls?
no...or at least i dont think so.
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Radar

Quote from: brainiac on June 06, 2010, 04:19:55 PMI've been punched directly in the clitoris, HARD, and let me just say, the whole "falling down and not being able to move for a bit" is not an exaggeration.

This... as well as being kicked there. It hurts. Bad.
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jmaxley

I've been kicked in the crotch before, it hurt like crazy.
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Espenoah

I got hit with a skateboard in the crotch when I was a kid trying to learn how to use one.
OMFG, I didn't have to fake pain there. Luckily no one was around to see. It was pretty embarrassingly stupid how it happened.
All I would have to do is relive that moment if I ever get hit there.
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Vanessa_yhvh

The real trick about being hit in the soft nether boy stuff is that even the barest little whack feels like a kick with a steel toed boot. :o
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Cairus

I imagine being kicked in the balls is kinda like what I felt after getting nailed in the cervix really hard, or when I used to get really bad periods, both of which consisted of a steady building ache, the sensation of having been punched in the gut and needing to puke. :x  Like my insides were twisted all up. I've stopped menstruating, but still shudder to think it's something most women go through on a regular basis.
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tekla

One of the things that straight cisguys will talk about when its just them is 'crap my dad told me that turned out to be true' and stories about how their father gave them their work ethic.  They seem rather pleased with that.  I've noticed that people w/o a real active father figure in their lives do not have the work ethic that those with active dads do.
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Jude_

For the circumcision question - well, i consider myself to have a foreskin. I mean, with all the dick growth on T you do develop one. I remember going to an FTM sexuality panel, and one of the speakers talked about how all trans guys are uncircumcised haha.
It does bother me a little to say that, because i'm jewish. I look REALLY jewish too, so people would probably wonder why i'm uncircumcised. Not that it's any of their business though...
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Jam

I think its the norm for males in the UK to be uncircumcised but not 100% on that.
I would say that i am not anyways because well....im not lol.

Im just worried incase they have any little key words for things (like little soldiers for sperm) and i dont no what the hell they are on about. I have mostly female friends now so i doubt i will have many male friends but its still a concern
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confused

most of my cis-male friends , don't even care about their prostate and never got it checked , so saying 'hell no' to that question wouldn't be unusual or anything
being kicked in the crotch though , feels like...ok like the same kind of pain you get when punched in the stomach off gaurd very strongly , only take that feeling and concentrate it all down there that's the immediate feeling , then in seconds it does build up but in a spreading way rather than an elivating way . most cis-guys are 'of course' insanely protective of that area so that a lot even react even before theyr actually hit , a little tap though does take time (one second or frictions)till it hurts

other than that and the size question (which by the way 'the average' answer is the most common among cis i know) , i can't think of any more possibly awkward questions other than things during sexual act (like how 'thick' or how 'white' is the 'stuff' ) which is tmi for most cis-guys anyway
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Kentrie

If someone aims to kick or hit me there I will automatically cross me legs and bend over and jump back, I've always done this. If I do get hit there it does hurt but I'm quite sure it hurts bio males way way more.
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Aegir

Quote from: kyril on June 06, 2010, 04:30:47 PM
It it weird if I know what it's like to be kicked in the balls? I know you're all going to tell me I can't, just like cis guys tell me I can't, but I do. Other guys talk about phantom penis, and I don't really have that. I have phantom nuts. And they erupt in sympathy pain when I see someone get hit there. That's actually one of my early specifically trans memories: seeing someone get hit there and flinching and instinctively reaching to protect my...nonexistent package. My mother asked what was wrong and I pointed at the kid doubled over in pain and she laughed at me and told me I was lucky I was a girl and I'd never know what that really felt like for him.

I've never been able to desensitize myself to it. I can't watch America's Funniest Home Videos, it's like being repeatedly punched in the gut. And if it ever looks like I'm going to take a hit there...I don't have to fake it, I panic and grab to protect.
I have a memory like that, too. I remember watching America's funniest home videos with my dad and whenever someone took a shot to the ball/stick assembly we'd both flinch a little.
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Miniar

I'm just not gonna worry 'bout these things.
If a clever retort comes to mind, I'll use that, but I'm not gonna "avoid" answering honestly and truthfully just to avoid outing myself.

Not gonna go out of my way to out myself either. .

Size? Very small, but works.
Cut/Uncut? Uncut. Don't support cutting at all.
Prostate exam? Don't have one.
Testicular issues? Don't have 'em.

if other questions follow, I'll address 'em as they come up.




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GamerJames

Quote from: Miniar on September 27, 2010, 09:24:15 AM
I'm just not gonna worry 'bout these things.
If a clever retort comes to mind, I'll use that, but I'm not gonna "avoid" answering honestly and truthfully just to avoid outing myself.

Not gonna go out of my way to out myself either. .

Size? Very small, but works.
Cut/Uncut? Uncut. Don't support cutting at all.
Prostate exam? Don't have one.
Testicular issues? Don't have 'em.

if other questions follow, I'll address 'em as they come up.

This is pretty much my viewpoint as well. I highly doubt I'll ever be stealth (although in many situations I'm sure I won't disclose my trans identity, but I won't be particularly guarded about hiding it either). I'm fairly interested in being open for the awareness/education opportunities it presents, but again, won't out myself just for no reason either.
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insideontheoutside

Quote from: kyril on June 06, 2010, 04:30:47 PM
It it weird if I know what it's like to be kicked in the balls? I know you're all going to tell me I can't, just like cis guys tell me I can't, but I do. Other guys talk about phantom penis, and I don't really have that. I have phantom nuts. And they erupt in sympathy pain when I see someone get hit there. That's actually one of my early specifically trans memories: seeing someone get hit there and flinching and instinctively reaching to protect my...nonexistent package. My mother asked what was wrong and I pointed at the kid doubled over in pain and she laughed at me and told me I was lucky I was a girl and I'd never know what that really felt like for him.

I've never been able to desensitize myself to it. I can't watch America's Funniest Home Videos, it's like being repeatedly punched in the gut. And if it ever looks like I'm going to take a hit there...I don't have to fake it, I panic and grab to protect.

^THIS. Seriously, I've described in detail what that feels like and other guys have confirmed it. If i see it happen to someone else I get this unusual feeling deep in my abdomen that radiates down from there. Having been kicked/hit in the crotch it feels the same. First time it ever happened some kid threw a baseball at me and I wasn't paying attention. Hit me square in the dick. I think I cried for 15 min straight.

I've been asked how big I am before. That can either be really rude or it can just be genuine curiosity on the person who's asking. My answer was usually, big enough or, why, do you want to f**k me? lol

I've had the prostate question before - from an older guy I know. Actually it wasn't a question so much as it was a statement ... like, oh just wait till you have to go through that, you'll hate it.

I've gotten the circumcision question before to which I replied I'm not, cause I'm not. When asked what that feels like, I have to respond with, well I don't know what it's like not to have it so how would I know? Feels pretty good to me lol. (If anyone caught my post last week on anatomy they could see that even with a female body you can still answer this question!)

I've gotten all manner of sex questions from other guys ...

I've gotten hemorrhoid questions from other guys ...

I've gotten jack off questions from other guys ...

I think guys in general have less taboo topics when talking with other guys. Although I have been in a few talks with women (where I had to play the part of one) where they went on about having periods. Way more uncomfortable than talking about hemorrhoids or jacking off imo lol.
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