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Another teacher mishap.

Started by notyouraverageguy, September 27, 2010, 03:49:11 PM

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notyouraverageguy

About two weeks before classes started, I had e-mailed all my teachers explaining to them about my being transgender. I told them about my preferred name and pronouns. Now everyone got my name down right, but I've been having issues with how the other students see me.
Today, each student in this class was "put on blast" per say. And when he came to me(we were going over our projects) he used female pronouns.
So its too late, any ambiguity or confusiong anyone had is gone and they all see a hairy butch lesbian girl.
Idk what to do, im not good with talking to people so idk what I would say to him if I tried talking to him after class. I don't even know what id write in an e-mail. I don't know what to say or do at all, im stuck.
Im like, there's no point everyones views of me are set now. And not being on T doesn't help.
I just want to let it go, but when he said her and she I just..my stomach sunk and I was shocked and I didn't know how to react.
Gender expression is NOT gender identity.

Defective Catastrophe.
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Jeatyn

You really really should have been like "she?" as soon as he started. You may be able to salvage it though, still insist on male pronouns, confront this particular teacher asap. Laugh it off as the teacher being a dumbass for thinking you were a girl.
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notyouraverageguy

Quote from: Jeatyn on September 27, 2010, 03:53:21 PM
You may be able to salvage it though, still insist on male pronouns, confront this particular teacher asap. Laugh it off as the teacher being a dumbass for thinking you were a girl.

Idk how to go about telling him, again. Im thinking of just e-maling him. I don't want to sound mean but I want to be clear.
Gender expression is NOT gender identity.

Defective Catastrophe.
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Kentrie

Before I found out I was Transgender I would be afraid the teachers would call me "he" and the kids I've known for forever would laugh so when they did call me "he" I would go into shock. But now I hate it when anyone calls me "she" and I hate for people seeing me as a hairy butch lesbian also.
Push it baby, push it baby, out of control, I got my gun cocked tight and I'm ready to blow. ;)
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Cameron James

I'd suggest a polite, yet firm email to your professor. Let him know that you are FTM and prefer masculine pronouns. I'd mention that while you understand that slip-ups happen every once in a while the use of female pronouns towards you is unacceptable.

You may want to link him to a PFLAG pamphlet on trans issues or another similar resource.


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Devyn

Jeatyn beat me to it. I was going to say you could just laugh it off, saying that the teacher is a dumbass.

I would send him another e-mail, or talk to him after class, explaining that it makes you uncomfortable when people use female pronouns towards you. Say something like, "You called me 'she' earlier. I would appreciate it if you would say 'he' from now. Thank you." or something. You could link him to a website that informs people about ->-bleeped-<-/transsexualism, such as pflag.org.
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Aegir

I saw this earlier and didn't even know how to react. I guess I'd have froze in that situation too x.x

I'm going to go with what Jeatyn and Aiden (and Devyn) said, though.
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