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[lilacwoman]

you are a walking advertisement for successful surgery...congratulations.

[kelly_aus]

I think you look great..

[Nigella]

But it is always us we see the ghosts of ourselves where none else does I guess.

I know what you mean, I am so critical of my face too and people say I don't need anything done to it and yet I too can look in the mirror some days and see the man. Its a strange thing because I read several months ago that others who have had FFS still feel the same way and see the man in the mirror. I have had no FFS surgery, just the HRT and SRS.

I still think my chin and nose needs doing but cost prohibits and I'm still hoping the HRT will transfer a little more fat in the right places.

I guess it comes down to accepting yourself for who you are.

Stardust

[Myself]

I know what you mean, I am so critical of my face too and people say I don't need anything done to it and yet I too can look in the mirror some days and see the man. Its a strange thing because I read several months ago that others who have had FFS still feel the same way and see the man in the mirror. I have had no FFS surgery, just the HRT and SRS.

I still think my chin and nose needs doing but cost prohibits and I'm still hoping the HRT will transfer a little more fat in the right places.

I guess it comes down to accepting yourself for who you are.

Stardust

I am not gonna accept being a man though

[Nigella]

I am not gonna accept being a man though

I didn't say we should except ourselves as men. I said accept who we are, which is the women that we are, that is reflected outwardly. We do criticize ourselves even when there is no evidence for the criticism. Its down to our gender dysphoria, gender unhappiness. I don't have that any more since SRS but I can still get body dysphoria sometimes when I look at other GG's and compare myself to them.

Stardust   

[Angela]

You look pretty to me.

[Lacey Lynne]

I didn't say we should except ourselves as men. I said accept who we are, which is the women that we are, that is reflected outwardly. We do criticize ourselves even when there is no evidence for the criticism. Its down to our gender dysphoria, gender unhappiness. I don't have that any more since SRS but I can still get body dysphoria sometimes when I look at other GG's and compare myself to them.

Stardust

What you said about inner beauty is profound ... and so true.  Love that comment.  Hey, I know what you mean about checking out the gg's and feelin' down about that sometimes.  I do that a lot.  Hey, who did your GRS/SRS?  Is that too personal a question for me to ask?  Hopefully, you love the results.  A really skillful surgeon can work wonders.   

[Nigella]

What you said about inner beauty is profound ... and so true.  Love that comment.  Hey, I know what you mean about checking out the gg's and feelin' down about that sometimes.  I do that a lot.  Hey, who did your GRS/SRS?  Is that too personal a question for me to ask?  Hopefully, you love the results.  A really skillful surgeon can work wonders.

No its not too personal and I'd say if people ask. I had my surgery in the UK, Mr Philip Thomas, he's brilliant and I'm so pleased with the results, read my post, Re: post op updates. I had my up's and down while healing first few months but now, WOW, hehe.

I not being biased but people forget we got a couple of great GRS/SRS surgeons here in the UK and mine I think and as others have said, is regarded the best in the UK.

Sorry to high jack post just answering the question.

Stardust

[Myself]

I dunno, I still feel the same way when I look in mirrors, that it's not done right :/

[Lacey Lynne]

No its not too personal and I'd say if people ask. I had my surgery in the UK, Mr Philip Thomas, he's brilliant and I'm so pleased with the results, read my post, Re: post op updates. I had my up's and down while healing first few months but now, WOW, hehe.

I not being biased but people forget we got a couple of great GRS/SRS surgeons here in the UK and mine I think and as others have said, is regarded the best in the UK.

Sorry to high jack post just answering the question.

Stardust

@ Stardust:

The United Kingdom always fascinated and intrigued me.  I think there is much to admire about it.  Someday, I hope to visit there.  Should I have SRS/GRS, I would seriously consider your doctor.  Thanks for sharing.  My best to you!   

[iris1469]

the only thing that I think you could do to make your face more feminine, is to thin and arch your brows. Thats all I see

I can also empathize with you. I look in the mirror and all I see is a man even though when I tell others what I see they act like im crazy...

Hope that helps

Nicole

[Carlita]

I dunno, I still feel the same way when I look in mirrors, that it's not done right :/

I know from other forums how bothered you've been by your appearance and how hard you've had to work to get this far ... And, let me say, you've done a great, great job: congratulations! ... But when I look at those pictures the one thing that hasn't changed from ones that I saw, I guess, a year ago or so - maybe more? - is the person underneath the surgery.

Please don't take this in any way as a criticism, because I absolutely do NOT mean in that way. But I think you need to stop worrying quite so much about the physical/surgical exterior and start concentrating on you. The thing that would make the biggest difference to the way you look is a happy smile ... which is great to see on anyone, and also has the immediate effect of feminizing almost any girl. See if you can go inside yourself find a bit more belief and confidence in who you are and the girl you are. Feel good about her, proud of her, confident of her. Instead of working from the outside in, go from the inside out ...

... and then I think you will maybe start feeling, hey, I want to make the best of myself, so that I look the way I feel. And then you can take pleasure in all those fun, girly things that will make such a difference to the way you look: your hair, your brows, your make-up ...

But that's just the surface. The real change will come from within ...

[Nigella]

@ Stardust:

The United Kingdom always fascinated and intrigued me.  I think there is much to admire about it.  Someday, I hope to visit there.  Should I have SRS/GRS, I would seriously consider your doctor.  Thanks for sharing.  My best to you!   

He has a great team of nurses too and very understanding and supportive. I can even email the specialist nurse when even and if I have a question and usually have an answer within an hour or two.

Stardust

[sophieb]

Looks great...nothing to worry about!