Hello from a Cisgendered Male

[April Dawne]

Jerica, you are so pretty =]

[Fencesitter]

Yeah it's a touchy subject.

The best is just to say "you're a gorgeous/beautiful woman". That's all that matters.....

In fact, in person, never approach a transgender person and say "you're so brave or you look so female", etc. There's really no good thing to say to a stranger like that because we all just want to be seen as female and saying that we look "so female" tells us you knew about our past maleness by looking at us so in fact, we did not look female enough.

Not easy to find the right words...

omg ROTFLMAO

I wish I looked like him (but not all the time)

Honestly, I'd rather look like a female again (brrr) than look like Jack Nicholson in "Shining". His expression in this movie is just ... extreme. All the time. Even before he enters the haunted hotel. Great actor, by the way.

[rejennyrated]

Yeah it's a touchy subject.

The best is just to say "you're a gorgeous/beautiful woman". That's all that matters.....

In fact, in person, never approach a transgender person and say "you're so brave or you look so female", etc. There's really no good thing to say to a stranger like that because we all just want to be seen as female and saying that we look "so female" tells us you knew about our past maleness by looking at us so in fact, we did not look female enough.

Unless you were talking to someone like me. I just couldn't be bothered to take offense.

(Then again maybe knowing I was intersex before makes me slightly more relaxed.)

[Debra]

Jerica, you are so pretty =]

aww thanks girl! Same goes for you, my dear =)

[Devyn]

I love seeing tolerant cis people.  What's up, man? Hope you like the people here. We're generally nice. I can sometimes be a jerk though, but that's only if you make me mad.

[Pundit]

Octavianus: No, I wouldn't, but I would say that to someone whom I know was born physically male and so has had to struggle with SRS (I think that is the proper term?) in order to look female.

Yeah it's a touchy subject.

The best is just to say "you're a gorgeous/beautiful woman". That's all that matters.....

In fact, in person, never approach a transgender person and say "you're so brave or you look so female", etc. There's really no good thing to say to a stranger like that because we all just want to be seen as female and saying that we look "so female" tells us you knew about our past maleness by looking at us so in fact, we did not look female enough.

That's in real life, though, which is different. I knew that she was transgender because it said so right under her username. If it were someone in real life, I wouldn't make such an assumption. Even so, in my post, I said that if I had seen her in real life, I would have never mistaken her for a man, so I don't see how my compliment can be misconstrued to mean you don't look female enough. What I was essentially saying was that the only reason I knew she was a MTF transgender was because of the "MTF transgender" (or whatever it says) under her username--that's all.

Again, thank you for the welcomes, everyone.

[Silver]

Something I'd like to help you understand- transwomen generally wish to be thought of as women. It's irritating to be treated differently just because of what people assume is or is not in your pants due to the tg status. So well, most would prefer to be treated as you would treat "normal" women.

Wow, this is a really popular welcome thread. We're not trying to jump on you even if it may seem like it, it's just that a lot of us have to deal with irritating stuff like this all the time and we get tired of it you know. We just want to be treated like anyone else of our gender, but I might be making assumptions about the poster lol. Welcome, once again since this is my third post.

[Alexmakenoise]

Hey Pundit, I like your posts so far.  Welcome!

[Hermione01]

Hi and welcome Pundit 

Wow 3 pages and still going.