Up until recently, I could count the number of times that I had passed on one hand, and most of those instances ended with the person correcting their embarrassing error. Since I started T, however, I think my confidence in my male self has multiplied exponentially and that is reflected in how people see me - they are more likely to see me as male when I feel so comfortably male. Granted, the tiny drop in pitch and a hair trim probably help, too.
What I have noticed, though, is that when I do pass, it tends to be with men rather than women. At work, where I am a minimum wage food establishment worker drone, I see lots of people, and it's the men that give me "son", "dude", "bro", "buddy", "he", etc. Women, a vast majority of the time, will refer to me as female with little hesitation.
I'm curious to know if anyone else has noticed a difference in the way they are perceived by men and women.
Are women more apt to pick up on our naturally female-dominant features, recognizing us as one of them? I had always thought that convincing other men would be my greatest challenge. Turns out it's been the other way around.
Along the same lines, does anyone feel that it is more important to pass in the eyes of one gender or the other? To me, passing in itself is a monumental accomplishment because I have a very feminine base to work with, and I receive oodles of confidence and a stupid smile everytime I am perceived as male.
Just been chewing on these thoughts over the past few days, and I was interested to see if anyone had any thoughts.
