TS on TS love Guide ?

[Sada]

bye

[Janet_Girl]

There isn't anything wrong with being a lesbian.  I am sure Jenny will be along to tell you of her love affair with her partner of 20 plus years.

I would not throw away a relationship with another Transwoman.  I actually think it would be more of an emotional connection, not just because we would both be going through the same things, but also because we would both be women.  Women are morse emotionally connected to their partners than men.

[justmeinoz]

Maybe you should discuss things with your girlfriend and just explore what feels good for yourselves in your relationship  without any expectations.   Communication is the main thing in any relationship, so lots of talking without any hangups or shyness should help a lot.  A sense of humour helps a lot too.

[spacial]

As janet and justmeinoz both say, there is nothing wrong and you should have a chat about it.

If you don't mind, I'd like to add something.

Way to go there girl!!!

You two have managed to do what almost everyone dreams of doing, bumping into the most ace person, that number one, someone who's perfect.

You've both found a soul mate.

Now, you seem to be on the panic phase. I don't deserve this. I must be dreaming. Sooner or later this person will figur out that I'm really a boring looser and dump me quickr than a used candy wrapper.

Been there.

The only think I can say to you is this. If it happens, then you've had a great ride. If it doesn't that's because you're not actually a boring looser.

One more thing. I a so utterly happy for your both.

[rejennyrated]

There isn't anything wrong with being a lesbian.  I am sure Jenny will be along to tell you of her love affair with her partner of 20 plus years.

I would not throw away a relationship with another Transwoman.  I actually think it would be more of an emotional connection, not just because we would both be going through the same things, but also because we would both be women.  Women are morse emotionally connected to their partners than men.

As Janet says been there seen that done it, and got the tee shirt.

There is a slight difference in that Alison and I did not meet until we were both long time postop which probably made the negotiation of the physical aspects of our relationship easier, except for the minor fact that at the time we were both in relationships with men, and although I will not presume to talk for Alison I enjoy being penetrated.

The key to success is to accept that you are both women and that therefore like any lesbian relationship there needs to be give and take. You both have to be prepared to take the lead, and/or be submissive as need arises.

All I can say is that 22 years on we have proved that such relationships can and do survive and work well. In many respects I have adopted the more traditionally male role, but only because I am far better qualified and therefore, in theory at least, have a much higher potential earnings capacity.

The thing is if you love each other then you make up your own rules and you make it work!

And good luck to you - and indeed to anyone else who wants to try! I can recommend the concept whole heartedly.

[cynthialee]

being in a relationship with a transperson is nice
I find that I am capable of being sexual with my spouse because there is no need to explain why I feel a certain way about this or that.
My needs and hangups are completely respected.
It is even possible for me to do the male part in bed without it being male. It is just mechanics, I am a female regardless.

[Rock_chick]

Ok, this isn't about a TS and TS relationship, but I think I'll share as I'm sort of in a similar situation as you, i'm in a relationship with a girl I met a few months ago and it's very definitely a lesbian relationship...I even get introduced as her girl friend (that causes a few odd looks). The really interesting thing is it is a lesbian relationship. She completely sees me as female and treats me as such and I feel completely female despite quite obviously being physically male. The thing that suprised me was that we both take the lead and there are times when i do play a very male role in proceedings, but at the same time I don't feel anything but female. Basically we both confuse the hell out of each other, but it's amazing and the sense of connection we share is truly special.

[NikkiJ]

If I ever find another TS who isn't a total flake, I might be able to find out for myself. 

[lilacwoman]

I've known some really nice TS who are great for friendship but I've never felt sexually attracted to any of them.  Basic chemistry is not there. 
You might be the same.

[rejennyrated]

If I ever find another TS who isn't a total flake, I might be able to find out for myself. 

You just haven't met the right ones, but unfortunately those of us who have no issues (and I count myself in that group), are also almost impossible to find because we don't go to any groups or clubs and so on. So finding us is like searching for the proverbial needle in a haystack.

Actually some of us are almost boringly sane. And if you doubt me just ask my shrink! 

[spacial]

I think maybe this was a little to personal to chat about~

   

So sorry. I can honestly assure you that everyone contributing was doing so with you in mind.

Really hope you'll find some answers.