my aunt.

[Michael Joseph]

So my aunt is a hair dresser and she was doing my best friends hair a while ago, and i guess she said to her about me that i should just get a sex change, and that shes known ive wanted to be a boy all my life. She also said that she thinks its bcause of the bad relationship with my father (bull->-bleeped-<-) and that she would never understand, but would never push me away. I guess thats her attempting to be understanding. I wonder if she talks to my mom about it? I never told her I was trans. When i came out as "lesbian, no one questioned it, but I guess my aunt saw past that and can really see that i do feel like a boy, not a lesbian. I think even if she talks to my mom, my mom is unwilling to come to terms with it because this was a few months ago. I also told my mom once that I felt like a boy not a lesbian. Its so annoying that if they know, they cant just help me. I dont even know how I would want them to help me, but its so hard to just talk about it. I wondering if this means they would be accepting? Sorry for venting, Im just upset more than anything. I guess because its Christmas and its the first time ill be around the whole family in a while and its just on my mind. I mean im out to the rest of the world, this is just hard. Well, thanks for listening, Happy Holidays.

Michael

[GQjoey]

It sounds to me if she "knew you always wanted to be a boy" whether she's ignorant about it or not, she had some understanding. I bet she'd be pretty easy to talk to, and help understand what being Trans is all about.
I have a rather big family on my dads side, 6 aunts/6uncles. It didn't really "stun" anyone in the family, being I was a huge tomboy from the time I could walk/talk. Majority of my family is 'accepting' as in, they respect me and love me, whether they understand or not, I do have one aunt, who, from day one (about 14 years old) was the first to call me her nephew. It came pretty  natural to her, and made me WANT to open up to her. We've always been in some what contact, but I got the solid chance last summer over a family reunion to really thank her for always being so accepting and loving. I don't think she ever realized how much it meant to me as a kid, to have her introduce me to her friends as her nephew. And the fact back then, she wasn't told much, other than I was trans by my mother.
Sometimes you'll get those blessings in disguises, of people that just "get it".
My advice - go for it, try to have some one on one time with her, and help her understand.

[Michael Joseph]

Thats really awesome, I wish I had some family like that. I guess I will just go for it. I mean, the worst that can possibly happen is me being disowned, but I'm going to have to someday, its been really bugging me to just completely come out to my family. I plan to very sooon.

[Marcelo Caetano]

My aunt doesn't accept me and she's like my mother to me. She sad, once the changes start, she will not talk or see me anymore. It's really hard. I even thought about not transitioning just because of her, but I don't wanna spend the rest of my life feeling miserable, wondering how would be if had decided to be a man. Also, she doesn't accept the fact that I like girls which is even worst: will I deny myself the right of love someone just to please another one who can't love for who I am? It doesn't seems right.
I just hope I can be brave enough to stand for myself and do whatever feel right for me.

[Michael Joseph]

Absolutely! as hard as it is, you need to do whats right for yourself, not others. I often feel the same way about my mom, like considering not transitioning for her. You cant do that. Just as we would want them to be happy, they need to be happy for us. Whether they are or not, you cant not be yourself for other people. I just wish some people werent so selfish, its not like we're asking them to change or anything. I feel like some people would rather their loved one be a drug addict, than to transition to fit how they feel.