MTF Transitioning in your thirties (30's)?

[galaxy]

You mean it has nothing to do with the age?
Why do i have no fat distribution? A half inch more on the hips 

[Alexis79]

Nope.

36 and I felt sexy!

Your pictures are...mind-boggling to me. I now feel completely confident I could not only pass, but look fabulous. I see so many facial similarities between mine and yours that...well...I at least have one anxiety disappearing right now.

Please accept my thanks Misato. You give me hope at a similar age.

If I may, how far along are you when you posted these?

Any advice?

[awilliams1701]

I'm 32 almost 33 and just started almost 2 weeks ago. I had an ex girlfriend that insisted I grow a beard because I looked way to feminine with long hair. I'm hoping that will work to my advantage, but that was also 14 years ago.

[TrishaJane323]

Well I am going to turn 32 in a few months and starting to really lean on starting HRT by the time on 33-35.  All depends on if I can get life in line to support myself as a woman...

For me it seems like the time in life to really figure out whats to be done about it.  Any younger than I am now I wouldnt have been mature enough or as knowledgeable about myself.  Thats just me though... 

[jeni]

Love this thread (so much I just went through all 20 pages). I'm 37 and would like to start HRT asap. Like so many girls here, I have had a lot of anxiety about whether my age will be a wet blanket on the possibility of the changes I'd like the big E to induce. It's really reassuring to see that there's hope for me. Sure, there's no guarantee and, like natal girls, it's a roll of the dice what your body decides it's going to do, but it's nice to hope.

But the way I see it is -- I already lost the dice roll when the X chromosomes were distributed, so I'm due now, right?

[KayXo]

Yes you ARE! 

[Monica Jean]

Do not fret, 37 is not old. Even with the amount of crap I have to deal with early on in this transition, I have never felt more alive, myself, energetic, or upbeat, even in the midst of down and blue days.

If everything in your life is telling you to go for it, girl, go for it!

[nanofan]

Very inspiring thread for some one in mid 30's who have hard time be a bealiving could pass ever and just started this path very afraid, biggest fear is broke parents hearts, career options, and friend opinion, but at the same time hoping I could be, and dress the way I imagine my self in the mirror.

[alexbb]

32, just beginning,  just read the whole thread and book marked it. so so inspirational.

[Jennygirl]

I am 30 going on 31, started when I was 28. I too feared that it might be too late to see a good result, but many people here showed me that there really is nothing to worry about.

What I learned most (from people here as well as firsthand experience) is that you get out of transition what you put into it. The first year of transition was like bootcamp for me. It seemed like I was learning something new every day, and my brain was like a sponge. I think I tried about everything under the sun, and the result of finding what worked for me made me incredibly happy and brought a feeling of accomplishment/resolve. Then I did a little bit of FFS when I turned 30 to seal the deal, and the second year has been smooth sailing to the point where most days I forget that I am even trans. I am recently decided non-op, too, by the way, fwiw.

I feel like I am still transitioning, my style is continuing to evolve- as well as my mindset. I have accepted myself as well as my trans status. I am comfortable with everything, and there is no feeling of dysphoria that holds me back anymore.

Age is only a barrier if you believe it to be so. What really matters is what you realistically want out of transition and to have a can-do attitude along the way. Chances are you will discover things that you once thought "not possible". The mind really can shape the body.

[galaxy]

These are words, when transition is working good, Jenny ... sorry!
I put 500% into my tranistion and get about 20% out ... i lost so much time, nerves and money. Thats unbelievable. 10 years of having a company eats less time and nerves than two years transition. And nothing worth it. My body is still 100% masculine and this is the result after 2 years. I switched to injections now and nothing is happen. Nothing.

Not everyone has luck and gets good, feminine results.
Its a game - and there are losers and winners.

[Alexis79]

I am 30 going on 31, started when I was 28. I too feared that it might be too late to see a good result, but many people here showed me that there really is nothing to worry about.

What I learned most (from people here as well as firsthand experience) is that you get out of transition what you put into it. The first year of transition was like bootcamp for me. It seemed like I was learning something new every day, and my brain was like a sponge. I think I tried about everything under the sun, and the result of finding what worked for me made me incredibly happy and brought a feeling of accomplishment/resolve. Then I did a little bit of FFS when I turned 30 to seal the deal, and the second year has been smooth sailing to the point where most days I forget that I am even trans. I am recently decided non-op, too, by the way, fwiw.

I feel like I am still transitioning, my style is continuing to evolve- as well as my mindset. I have accepted myself as well as my trans status. I am comfortable with everything, and there is no feeling of dysphoria that holds me back anymore.

Age is only a barrier if you believe it to be so. What really matters is what you realistically want out of transition and to have a can-do attitude along the way. Chances are you will discover things that you once thought "not possible". The mind really can shape the body.

This is what I hope to have happen for me - full boot camp type deal I put myself through, hopefully with the help of a few key mentor type friendships both in cis and trans worlds.

I know there is a lot of work ahead, and I actually want to get to it. The engineer in me requires order structure and a plan first. Thankfully, I am happy to improve when that inevitably blows up. ;p

I do want to keep this thread bumped though. Misato and jennygirl are what singlehandedly made me stop fearing passability if you are committed to time and work...and hopefully someone else can be inspired the same Knowing we not quite middle agers are able to work almost as wonderfully as the younguns, since we have access to more resources to balance their youth.

[Ruth Ruthless]

After a year hrt no real fat distribution change for me and complete baldness over 15 years before hrt. So I will never have 24/7 experience since I have to use wigs. Then again with changes to my facial bone structure through surgery with my wig on I might pass even though hrt itself barely did anything for me except kill my sex drive and give me small tits. I'm using my local national sex change commitee to go through the process of getting tracheal shave and ffs paid for me. It's not 24/7 but it could at least work for the few hours a day I can wear a wig without itching and is not dependent on hrt.

[Ruth Ruthless]

My belly has always been the primary fat storage place and the only way I can handle it so far is to be ridiculously skinny and the only time I get noticeable curves is when I'm flexing my stomach muscles. You can see my ribcage bones but the belly is still out there masking the waist curves.

[galaxy]

In my experience fat-distribution only take place on a few of us "30's". I would say around 10-15%. I know a lot, lot transwomen passed the 30 but there are only a few with a feminine body structure formed by fat distribution and the right muscles. The may look like woman in the face but the body is still masculine in much cases.

[ashley_thomas]

I'm late thirties and done almost entirely with non-professional transition and am about 1 year into HRT. I haven't been misgendered once - and that includes our home city and trips to CA and NYC.  I've had a few stares but I can count them on one hand. I'm also over 6 feet tall.  There is a genetic lottery aspect for sure but also will power, determination and your approach.  My ace in the hole is a spouse that is happy to go along for a wild ride which makes acceptance from others easier and also gives me a daily built in style guide, best friend and almost big sister type help.  I won't ever say it's just hard work, luck and circumstance play a role too but we have to play with the cards we have and self acceptance is the biggest factor you control.  From there, most of the rest is external and that is so much easier to deal with than the internal - at least so far it has been with me.  Hardest external part for me has been the disruption with my family of origin and the complexities of a professional transition about to begin.

[BunnyBee]

I started HRT two years ago at age 32.  So many factors go into the success of a transition it would make your head spin.  Age is just one of them.  Many older transitioners do very well, some of the younger ones really struggle, and vice versa.  Most of the 30-ish transitioners I've encountered have come through it pretty well, but that is completely anecdotal.  I am sure we have similar rates of success as the other age groups.

I have posted loads of pics of myself on susans before, but I don't know where or if they even still exist lol.  I posted some recent ones at this link for ya.  There have been significant physical changes, tho much less than I would prefer.  Hormones have had more of an effect on my mood than anything else.  I am happy and glad to be alive, something I couldn't have imagined saying a few years ago.

Interesting... Hello me from 4 years ago lol.  Maybe it would be fun for me to give an update?

So i'm 38 now.  Sometimes I still do think hrt has had no affect on my face, but from certain angles you can really see it drastically, and though I didn't say so in the post above, there had been significant changes to my face by 1.5 years (when I wrote the abv) for goodness sakes, really 1 month in you could start to see it. (I have photo evidence of this ).

Besides my face I have seen significant changes to my skin and body hair, both have become 100% ish female I would say.  Body fat redistribution has come very slowly however, but has actually been ramping up in the last year or so—this is like year 6 for me.  I now have a little bit of a shape, not much but a little.  My boobs finally have started coming in, but they're small.  I am sure I will need BA if I ever want to feel normal in that area. Body fat is the area where I feel I have been punished for starting a lil late.

The biggest affect by far has been on my mind.  My mood is 1000% improved, but it's more than just that.  I honestly feel like a different person with the way my mind works and the things I care about and all of that.

I'm trying to think of anything else that might be interesting.  My sexuality has definitely shifted.  i started out mostly asexual but female attracted-leaning, then became more male-attracted leaning, and now i would say I am clearly hetero, but still not sure how motivated by sex I am.

Time goes by and my real world problems get less trans related and more womanhood related, like how I am treated on the train for instance is not always too pleasant.  The way men treat me in general.  Idk.  My trans struggles mostly occur in my head.

All in all, I am mostly happy with how I look and I have some friends that started at a similar age and they are doing fine too.  It won't be that way for everybody, but take heart that you have good chances starting in your thirties.

[Jenna Marie]

As I recall, a lot of pictures in this thread show women getting great curves and fat redistribution on the body... I certainly did, and still am. I'm actually kind of amazed that at 5 years on HRT (next month!) I'm still seeing changes; my thighs and butt are continuing to get bigger, and my waist is a bit more defined, versus a year ago.

I started with a pants size of about 12 and am now a 16-18 - yeah, not thrilled about the "not skinny" aspect of it, but at least it's all in the butt and hips.

[Violet Bloom]

  I am recently decided non-op, too, by the way, fwiw.

  Good for you!  I think this choice needs to receive strong commendation and recognition when it is the right thing for the individual.  Your decision should help a lot of people become more comfortable going this route.  It may very well be my path also.  Too bad we won't be seeing you 'north of the border', as I had been quite looking forward to that.  You're always welcome here!

[Monika the diva]

Yeah i started taking HRT at 33 years old I am soon to be on hormones for 7 months. Soon it will be a year.



OMG i can't believe i'm a little over halfway in a year.

I plan on going all the way to SRS.